Six Habits For Better Relations In The Workplace

Be truthful and trusting
Today’s world is beset by conflict, mistrust and distancing. The need for acceptance is a growing phenomenon and one that demands attention. People are social beings who strive to be accepted. It is in their nature to seek closeness, trust and forgiveness in their relationships yet in today’s world the table has been turned. People of today are full of mistrust, anxiety and disassociation which makes them self supportive. Relationships have become strained and families fractured. You don’t have to live a life of dissolution and loneliness.

Cast out fear and instill confidence
It seems no one wants to go swimming for fear of the sharks. Just because the national news is filled with crime, murder, mayhem and financial uncertainties you don’t have to allow it to effect your relationships. People are reluctant to embrace relationships for fear of being hurt, rejected or being taking advantage of. Confidence is in short supply because confidence men have corrupted the very core of decency.

Reinvent yourself
By making a few subtle changes in your demeanor such as how you approach others, conduct and present yourself you may discover that relationships become valuable assets. This gives you greater opportunity to build lasting relationships from smoother daily exchanges. Given years of observation coupled with fifty years of personal application I hereby offer you some easy-to-adopt suggestions.

1. Come into their proximity, People are more likely to favor someone who remembers their discussions and are in agreement as they stand or sit side by side, rather than facing head on.

When people face each other they literally face off or have a stance of resistance. Men instinctively take a face-to-face stance of dominance. Make it a habit to come into your coworkers proximity, it reduces uneasiness and allows you to enter their comfort zone. Walking side-by-side while having a discussion reduces tensions further and allows you to become even closer connected. If there are issues to be resolved it is best to discuses matters while walking together not sitting across from each other.

2. Let them know you care. Remember people’s birthday, anniversary likes and dislikes and any other particulars about them. Let them know you care about them by sending a note of gratitude, short phone call or offering your assistance. Most of all, listen to what they have to say and be available if they need help.

3. Use Good Judgment. Know when to deal and when to fold. Don’t be a nescience yet be cordially available. People feel comfortable when they know there is someone they can trust. They naturally want to be connected to someone they can relate to.
4. Be active not reactive. Activate the relationship by acting in a manner consistent to your belief’s. BE REAL! Do not react to someone else’s conflicting ideas. Simply put yourself in their shoes and understand and respect their perceptions.

5. Use the power of scents. I know, this may sound strange but fragrances are powerful to the emotional sense because it bypasses much of the brain's thinking process. Think about using scents to softly introduce positive, natural and uplifting feelings into your surroundings. Natural aromas introduced into an environment helps to refresh people, giving them an uplifted feeling. That's why outlets as diverse as the Rainforest Cafe, Sahara Vegas Casino, Disney/Epcot Home of the Future and San Francisco Aquarium have created natural signature scents to avoid allergic reactions while refreshing those they serve.

Consider adding a light scene with aromas that you are most comfortable with to your clothing. The odor of vanilla or lemon makes the mind think clean while lavender or rose symbolizes imminence. Lemon vanilla, lavender, and potpourri are Americans' most -liked scents.
6. Be constructive. Let people know you value their relationship. People are drawn to other people who exemplify their root beliefs. Inject cheerfulness into your relationship. Don’t cast a negative shadow; chase the clouds away, be uplifting and positive.

The workplace is obviously a place of common bonding. Most people spend more waking hours with coworkers than their families. Workplace relationships should be kept professional yet friendly. Do not make the mistake of crossing the line between a workplace relationship and personal relationship. In most cases, the workplace is competitive as it encourages teamwork coupled with a desire to advance. At times relationships can be strained when two or more people are jockeying for the same position. Always keep in mind that everyone is working for a common cause and nobody wins if there is distension amongst employees.
Happy trails