Don’t Gamble on Your Wedding: A Mans Guide to Planning a Wedding

Most of the time, the Groom has nothing to do with the planning of his wedding. Most of the time the bride, her best friends, sister and mother will do most of the planning for the wedding leaving only the matter of the grooms Tuxedo up to the Groom.

You may be thinking that this is the way you want your wedding to be done, but in the end this way will usually be worse on you then if you did the entire wedding yourself.
No matter how well you think you have planned things, some things will inevitable go wrong.

To help cut down the frustration and arguments that will arise over these things here are a few things that I learned when planning my wedding that may be helpful to you.

The List:

The first thing that needs to be done is you need make a list of people you wish to have at your wedding. You can not book a hall if you have no idea how many people you are planning on having at your wedding.

The bride, the groom and the parents of each should make a list of all the people they need to invite. Make sure this list includes even people you want to invite but will not show up. Make a note next to each name that you are fairly sure will show up. Your aunt from 2 towns over will probably show up but that friend from college who lives across the country who you barley ever talk to anymore will probably not show up. This list can be used to decide on how big a wedding hall you will need and how many invitations you need to order.

The Wedding Hall:

Your wedding is a very special day and choosing the place to have it is also very important because this is where all the memories of your wedding will be. Make sure you talk to friends and co workers and ask for suggestions. Even your single friends may have been to a wedding somewhere and can tell you about it. And the internet and the phone book are priceless at this stage in the wedding plans.

Make sure you go see as many different places as you can, some places will require you to make an appointment to see their facilities and others may want you to come during an event so you get to see the place decorated and some you can just show up, so call first so you do not waste your time have to go back to a place more then once.

Invitations:

Once you have an idea of how many people you need to invite and you have booked a hall and gotten a date for the wedding it is time to order Invitations. The printer you choose to make your invitations is important. Just like everything else go to more then one printer before making a choice.

For my own wedding we designed our cards and the printer was careless and placed them on top of each other with wet ink and we wound up with 200 invites that we needed to return, and then they used the wrong color ink on the second batch so we had to return those also.

The printer should be able to show you exactly what the invitations will look like on the computer, and do not accept them if they do not look perfect. If they tell you that they can not show you what it will look like until they have printed one out then you are dealing with a printer with old machines and in my opinion you will be safer with another printer who has more modern equipment.

Music:

Many people still use a live band but DJ's are becoming more and more popular. Whatever you choose do to for your wedding make sure you go see the DJ or the band play live before hand. The music is one of the most important parts of the Wedding. People go to a wedding to help you celebrate your marriage and they want to get drunk, eat well and dance.

Photography:

Over the next 40 or 50 years the memories of the wedding may fade but the pictures will always be there to remind you of that special day in your life. Since many brides like to have the photographer around while they have their hair and makeup done it is important to have someone there who helps create a fun atmosphere. The day of your wedding you will be nervous that things are going to go wrong and having someone around taking pictures of you does not help, but if the photographer has a good personality it can help put the bride at ease a bit.

Hair and Makeup:

It is not only important to interview many different hair and makeup people, but make sure you get names and phone numbers of former clients. The person may do beautiful hair but if they tend to show up late it is best to go with someone else.

My wives makeup person came 45 minutes late and because of that we did not have enough time to go to the shore with the photographer for a few pictures, before the sun went down.

On your wedding day things need to go according to a schedule and making sure the people you hire are trustworthy is very important.

The only other advice I can give you is that no matter how hard you plan people who said they could not come will change their minds last minute, people who you have sat together in your table chart will get into a fight and wont want to site together, so just remember that once you kiss the bride the stress all fades away.

Make sure you take some time to enjoy your wedding; it is probably the best party you will ever throw.

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