Hypnosis Healing Patter

Let’s say you had a friend who is going through a divorce. You call your
friend and talk to her one evening to try and have her feel better about the
situation. “Everything is going to be alright, you’ll find someone new. He
wasn’t right for you anyway. Time heals all wounds and you’ll look back on all
of this and laugh some day. That person wasn't good for you anyway and
deep down you know it.” If you spend an hour on the phone with this person
and are relatively convincing you may make her feel better for at least a little
while. However, after this conversation she will still remain deeply hurt.
She may feel okay for that night or through the next day but that bad feeling
will creep back in. (by the way this example is close to hypnotists who
only use direct suggestion when dealing with problems) But
if you were to hypnotize her and say the exact same thing, the odds are she will
actually feel much better and be able to heal at a much faster rate if not right
then and there.
How do you change one’s perceptions about giant mistakes they themselves
have made in their lives or terrible things that they may have done? “I left my
husband and three children without a word because I knew this fate would be
better than if I stayed.” This was a true ISE of a woman I was helping and she
came to me just to quit smoking! When she was pregnant with her third child,
within the last few weeks of her pregnancy her mother became ill. Her mother
had been just fine until one night when she became very dizzy so the family
rushed her to the emergency room and she died. This unexpected death caused a
huge ISE in my client. This is one of the rare ones where it did not happen in
childhood. For some reason this woman knew that her fate would be just like
that of her mother. She felt that when she reached her mother’s age she to
would die. Because of this reasoning she decided to abandon her family and
spare them that impending grief.
This woman had came to me to stop smoking but told me about a deep
depression that she had felt for many years. She was actually in a mental
hospital for two years because of it. Through regression we went back to the
night that her mother died as well as the time when she left her family shortly
after the birth of her third child. You can imagine that it was extremely
difficult to simply take her back and forth from these events and have her feel
okay about them with the usual patter of, “When I count from three down to one
it’s the time when you left your family high and dry but this time you’ll feel
just fine about it, three, two, one.” Unfortunately she was not able to
forgive herself and most likely is still harboring guilt over what she has
done. This makes the point rather clearly that a hypnotist cannot make
you do anything even if it’s for your own good. I cannot make her forgive
herself even though she would benefit greatly from it.
This is not the first time I have encountered a substantial ISE with a
pregnant woman. I would guess it is due to the hormone imbalance within their
body during pregnancy. Instead of a bowl of ice cream accompanied by a pickle
sandwich apparently they sometimes just decide to leave everyone they know…