When to Say Goodbye: Several Good Reasons to End a Romantic Relationship

Saying goodbye has never been easy for anyone. If you have shared a good part of your life with a special someone, cutting him off completely from your life would be a far cry from the heavenly bliss you experienced when the two of you first got together. However, as much as you want to envision sharing the rest of your life with him, you know deep inside that things are just not meant to be. Yet, despite that nagging feeling, you are still confused. Should you end it or not?

The confusion is a madness that has engulfed you completely and preoccupied your thoughts for days on end. Helplessly, you feel your spirits sinking whenever thoughts of him and your relationship cross your mind. Feeling depressed, confused, and dispirited; you drag yourself from each day to the next, barely unable to experience life as you should because your mind has been so out of it lately.

Depression and Loss

Finding yourself in this depressing state places you in a position typical among people who are on the verge of experiencing loss. As in majority of cases, people succumb to depression over troubles concerning their family, marriage, and romantic relationships. In fact, according to research, people whose marriages are rocky are said to be 25% more susceptible to clinical depression than those whose marriages are characterized to be generally harmonious. As such personal loss experienced through divorce, job loss, end of a romance, death of a loved one, mental and physical dilemmas due to old age, and other tragic experiences set off depression.

Why it has to end

Although you have not yet totally lost him, spotting the indicators hinting at a probable breakup is enough to make you feel glum. Nevertheless, it is also not a good feeling to be in this dismal state of confusion, where you find yourself torn between wanting to hold on, and yet, embracing his loss. Being in an unhealthy relationship affects your life in nearly all aspects. Making the decision to say “goodbye” requires serious contemplation. If you are having a hard time reaching a decision, here are the indicators that signal the need to put a romantic relationship to an end.

You are just holding on because you think he needs you.

There are issues between you that you cannot resolve, no matter how much you attempt to address it.

You have cut your friends out of your life because your special someone has told you to do so.

Instead of growing as a person as your relationship progresses, you are slowly losing your self-esteem.

You are forced to do things—engage in sex, lie to your parents, etc., which you would have not done otherwise because he has pressured you.

He is abusing you either emotionally or physically. In terms of emotional abuse, your special someone either criticizes or harasses you often. He does so even to the extent of humiliating you in front of others.