Dad In The Dumps?

Having a baby is usually the happiest time in a person's life - a time to celebrate new life glowing with a world of possibilities. Early in a newborn's life, time seems to zip by quickly for Mom and Dad. One minute you're opening baby gifts, and the next minute the baby is two years old. It can sometimes be a bumpy ride. Most are familiar with Mom experiencing the "baby blues." But the "terrible twos" can take on new meaning when it is 24 months down the line and Dad is the one having the blues. Irritability and exhaustion resulting from functioning with little-to-no sleep and thoughts of inadequacy as you question every decision made are just some of the feelings associated with a new mother. But it can also describe the father's angst and his struggles to cope.
Moms need to know the warning signs of postpartum depression in dads: overwhelming and prolonged sadness, stretching himself too thin, lack of energy and a general disconnect from the baby and sometimes even the family. Now that you know the symptoms, let's talk about some solutions. Here are some simple steps to help get Dad out of the dumps:

• Time to Open Up: Encourage the new dad to talk about his feelings. A lot of dads and men in general aren't used to opening up and expressing their feelings. This really compounds postpartum depression because there is no cathartic release or emotional process to work through their feelings. Keep it casual, though. Driving in the car, working in the garden and walking in the neighborhood can create a comfortable discussion setting. It really doesn't matter where, just get them talking!
  
• Don't Forget the Husband-Wife Connection: Albeit unintentional, with so much attention required by the little one, it's easy to neglect others. Keep that spousal bond alive by sharing meals and staying in bed late on a Saturday morning just to talk to one another. Time scheduled away from the baby also helps to fan the flames of romance.
  
• There's Strength in Numbers: So the new dad won't feel like he is the only one with the blues, suggest he forms a support group with other new fathers to discuss the changes that are taking place. It's a great place to share ideas on how to navigate the new waters of fatherhood.
  
• Keep Him Encouraged: Let him know that he has your support. Say it with words and with actions. Leave an uplifting note on his pillow. Try sending him a nice gift "from the baby" like an engraved pocket watch locket including the baby's photo with a note that reads "I appreciate all the time you give me, Dad!" or a leather shoe shine kit that says, "My Dad outshines them all!" It's a cute and creative way to keep his spirits uplifted.

Karen Sullen is a writer for Corner Stork Baby Gifts that specializes in informative articles on babies, pregnancy and parenting along with their storefront that offers hundreds of baby gift ideas from baby blankets, baby gifts, baby shower favors, baby gift baskets, and many more great gift ideas. Visit online at http://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com.