Lose Weight, Quit Smoking, Eliminate Negative Behaviors Successfully With Hypnotherapy CD's

For nearly all folks, the trail to individual transformation and self-improvement is a long and winding trail filled with difficult barriers. Drug companies in particular have capitalized on and created gigantic fortunes because of the elusive search for the "Magic Pill" that will make all of your dreams come true. As it turns out, there is a secret formula for success, and it begins in the human mind.

One of the presuppositions of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is that "there is a positive intention behind all behaviors." And based on that presupposition, when it comes to successfully eliminating negative behaviors, there is a formula that we must always keep in mind. I'll let you in on the secret equation in a minute. But first, I have a riddle for you to solve.

Riddle: A preacher made his child drink lye, which burned out his voice box. What was the positive intent behind this action?

If you are like 99.9% of the clients who have come into my office since 1978, you'll indignantly say something like: "There's no positive intention behind that behavior." But you would be totally in error. To answer this riddle, first you have to detach the behavior from the positive intention of the behavior.

The minister's child was cursing. And the preacher believes that if his child curses, his soul will be condemned to Hell. So the answer is that the preacher was burning out his child's vocal cords so that he couldn't curse. By doing so, he was saving his child's soul from being fated to suffer in Hell.

The secret formula for success uses NLP and works as follows:

We should always respect the positive intent that motivates each behavior. If we have an urge to employ a behavior that we don't appreciate, we can easily get rid of the impulse to use that behavior. All we need to do is to find a different behavior and substitute it in its place. To be successful, the new action must be as accessible and efficient at accomplishing the same outcome, but be more consciously acceptable to you. This is called a REFRAME.

When clients come into my office, the first thing I do is to take a detailed case history. Let's imagine that they come to me and ask me to help them eliminate their weight problem. Experience tells us that the two main reasons that people eat excessively are: (1) to tranquilize themselves; (2) because eating can be a conditioned response. For example, if a person eats while they are talk on the phone, they will develop a conditioned response, and thereafter, every time they talk on the phone they will get a craving for food.

However, the above answer only takes into consideration the possible secondary gain received from the eating behavior. What if they also have another behavior that is concerned in the equation? For instance: What if being fat is also a behavior for this person? I can hear your mind grinding right now as you think, "Being heavy isn't a behavior, what are you talking about?"

Sorry but you could be absolutely wrong. Here is a simple classic textbook example that will illustrate the fact that being heavy can be a behavior. It can be a behavior because it can accomplish positive outcomes.

Example: A woman falls in love. Her partner breaks up with her, and breaks her heart. Her subconscious wants to shield her emotionally and stop her from having her heart broken again. So it motivates her to get heavy to keep her out of relationships. That way she can't get her heart broken again.

The point is that everyone is totally different. And sometimes there are hidden elements at work that cause neurotic behaviors. These are elements that are different for each person.

Here's another case in point: A woman comes into my office complaining of an out of control compulsion to eat too much at mealtime. During the case history, the woman explains to me how she has never been able to please her father.

During an age regression, we learned that one of her early memories was of having a meal with her family. And her father was insisting in an authoritive voice that she eat what was left on her plate, even though she was full. So she finished the food left on her plate because of fear, and her dad commended her for eating everything. It was one of the only times in her life that she could recall her dad telling her that he was happy with her.

Shoot forward to present day. Her father has been gone for years, but the subconscious program he created is still operational. She still has a powerful compulsion to finish everything on her plate, even if she is feeling bloated, because by cleaning the plate, in her unconscious mind she is getting dad's approval, and eliminating her own fear!

So if you have a problem making personal changes, remember that there is a positive intent behind all behaviors. And the secret formula for success is to use another behavior that will realize the same secondary gains, but in a mode that is more consciously suitable to you, as an individual. The most efficient way to get your subconscious to assume the responsibility for making this kind of alteration for you is through a Neuro-Linguistic Programming 6-Step Reframe.

Alan B. Densky, CH is an NLP Practitioner. He began his practice of NLP in 1978. He offers an interactive NLP Six-Step Reframing CD on his Neuro-VISION NLP site. Also offered are his Free hypnosis article index, hypnosis & NLP newsletters and MP3 downloads.