Proper Ethics When Visiting a Friend

Back in the days, paying someone a visit here in the Philippines is almost always associated with either courtship or the sick. Why wouldn't it be when it is usually accompanied by flowers, chocolates, or tokens, correct? Time sure has changed, where it's already a norm today that visitation can also be translated as a business proposal, simply catching, or even patching things up.

As culture dictates, especially here in the Philippines, you have to be very mindful of your etiquette whenever you step into someone's territory or comfort zone. Prior to showing up in another person's home or office, inform them that you intend to drop by. Bear in mind that not all of us are fans of surprises. Inform the person of the date, time, and the rationale behind your proposed visit. Once your intention has been acknowledged, prepare the things you have to bring. Whatever you're bringing may it be flowers, documents, or anything similar, prepare them as soon as possible to avoid cramming. The worse thing that's next to showing up late is handing something mediocre over.

Since we have already touched on the subject of being tardy, let us go over the most common mistake of visitors: not being on time. Traffic, may it be in London or in the Philippines, is not a valid excuse anymore. If you are going somewhere notorious for hour long queues, leave early or find ways to avoid getting caught up in the jam. If you really cannot make it on time, call the party you are visiting and inform them what your estimated time of arrival (ETA) is. No one likes waiting especially today when every minute matters. Also, canceling the last minute is a serious faux pas. If you need to attend to something urgent or unavoidable, call, cancel, and reschedule your visit as early as possible. Canceling the last minute with a lousy excuse would hardly merit you another shot of visiting.

If you are visiting another country or a foreign national, make sure that you research on their culture before leaving your house. How you're used to eating rice using chopsticks may be offensive to the Japanese as asking for salt and pepper for your pasta is to Italians. Lastly, when you reach your destination, be very respectful of their territory. Do not roam around their place nor touch anything unless invited. Damages both physically and emotionally are rarely reversible.

If unsure, you may bring a bunch of flowers when you are to visit someone. A bouquet of fresh flowers can brighten and lighten your visit. Surely, your friend would be glad to receive a nice bunch for her home.