101 Child Independence Litmus Test:Can My Child Survive Without Me?

Formative Child's Years:Prepare Your child To Be Independent

Todays child is tomorrow's parent and tomorrow's leader,hence the destiny of the nation and a blueprint for the future world. In short children are our footprint to all future generations.
For a deeper understanding of child's development, i suggest you get a copy of Dr sigmund freud's works on ages of man.
In this article,I will focus on essential tools to equip your child with for a truly Independent Life. He may have the need to leave you or nature may seperate you, so give the best gift you can of basic survival.You might be blessed with money and wealth, but a poorly prepared child can destroy it all. You therefore owe it to your family and your child this special gift, not money but knowledge and basic skill of survival in whichever enviroment the child is in.


Reasons To Leave Home:

Your child Feels Is Ready To Move From Home Because-
All the mates have done so.
The child may just want some privacy or more freedom
The child may actually be planning to move in with a mate
The child may just want some experience living on his or her own
The child may want to move to work to help in family finances
Probably the child resents the family enviroment
There maybe thousand and one reasons, but is the child prepared?

You Do Not Want To Fall Out: Do You Just Allow The Move?

Avoid direct refusal to move out. Give an excuse that looks genuine, like if you have a family member you look after, make them aware you may need time to make some arrangements. Within this period, find out if the child is really prepared, like why move out? You may give a friend's contact who can help find accomodation. If you have rental property, you may offer to rent to the child.
You may on the other hand work out the overall expences of living on their own, then you suggest they keep in the safe every month for six months or sugest they give it to you to prove they will be able to survive on their own. If they miss on payment, you can have a ground to sugest they stay abit longer with you.This scenario has looked at a child who is of legal working age and is working. If a child is not working,then make the child put some contribution in the family which has monetary value, so as to assist the move out, meanwhile help the child find an appropriate job.

101 Litmus Test: Domestic Chores

This is a broad category that cover day today activities of daily living. They include cooking,cleaning, sweeping,emptying rubbish,polishing shoes,ironing, making bed,tidying up, cleaning the car, watering the flowers,school runs,shopping, gardening,picking mails etc. They are boring activities which most people would rather not do. They are essential activities of living.These are activities a child can be involved in in very early age starting with menial tasks and gradually increasing in complexity untill the child can be able to make a meal for himself and be involved in doing so for a family.

101 Litmus Test: Finances

Is your child prepared to handle money?
When preparing domestic finances involve the child, let the child see
how you set your budget, and occassionary let the child practice.
Put them to the test by asking them to do a whole months budget for domestic use. The aim here is to see if they can comprehend the expences of keepin a family.
As the child is growing up, give some pocket money and make them buy their own stuff from that pocket money. Make them account for the way they have spent that money. If you think they are ready to move out or if their friends are already moved out, find out if they have any comprehension of costs of living on their own and paying for their own accomodation. If your child ask for permision to move out, do not resist because the child might just be polite and will move out any way.


101 Litmus test: Interpersonal Relationship
And Financial Responsibility

Asses how well the child gets on with other siblings and their friends, help them to polish this. Avoid solving problems for them, even where they ask, give a guidance. By doing so you are helping the child to grow up and gain social skills. They are also able to take more responsibility for their action. If they are in such a hurry to move out, get them involved in groups going on excursions etc, let the child finance the trips and if they are happy with their experience,you may give your blessings for freedom, if they paass the three basic 101 Litmus test. That is they have proved they can manage their own life independently.