Children Need Both Parents In A Divorce

Parenting through divorce while working on a new marital and step-parenting relationship may bring thoughts that life would be simpler if their former spouse were not in the picture. Families attempt to freeze out a biological parent creating loyalty conflicts for their children. Studies indicate that children need both their parents and would suffer more when a parent is no longer a part of their lives. Step families usually work better when children are able to continue relationships with their outside parent. Children usually adjust to different households, lifestyles, values, and rules much easier than they can adjust to losing a parent.

When the relationship with the absent parent is protected, most children are better able to accept a stepparent. A stepparent can be someone in addition to a natural parent, not a replacement for that parent.

Children generally adapt to change quite well; however, the more changes they experience, the more difficulty they have coping. Prioritize what things need to change. The most critical area in which to limit change is in the children's relationships with their natural parents. A good relationship with a parent provides children with a buffer from stress. Continue to spend some time alone with each of your children. Reassure your children that they can continue their relationships with their absent parent without threat of being disloyal to you.

Maintain consistency in rules and discipline and retain as many familiar everyday routines as you can. If possible, look for a way that children can remain in the same school for at least a year and continue to see their old friends.

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