Walking the Line between Arrogance and Confidence

Jealousy is like a patch of resistant weeds that just won't go away. It hides in every corner; just making everything it touches look ugly. There is really no way to avoid coming in contact with it because it is a normal, human emotion that we all experience. But it seems like some people experience it a lot more than others. It also seems like some people bring it out in others, a lot more than other people do.

Beauty has a way of bringing feelings of jealousy or envy to the surface, for some people. The response a person has to feeling that rise up within themselves depends on their level of maturity and poise. But being beautiful is not something that should be punished, or ever used as an excuse to shun somebody for. But people who are very attractive encounter some type of jealous reaction on a daily basis. Beautiful people also enjoy numerous perks and treats because of the way they look, so in some ways it seems to balance out.

Confidence is another enviable trait that triggers jealous retaliation from others. Confidence is not always associated with beauty or good looks. It usually has nothing to do with the way a person looks at all. Ironically, the more beautiful a person is, it seems the more self conscious and unsure of themselves, they are. True confidence comes from within a person in response to the feeling of peace and happiness they have with themselves and their accomplishments.

Arrogance is confidence in its distorted state. It is not beautiful or enviable, but it does breed jealousy and envy in similar ways. A person who works hard to accomplish their goals is usually building up their confidence every time they see their efforts pay off. For someone who consistently meets goals, and is successful, confidence comes easy and they get used to it. They get used to being told how great they are. They get used to being praised and encouraged, and they get used to enjoying special privileges. The special treatment they get and the all the extra attention they get, triggers their confidence to morph into arrogance.

There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance. But it is one that is worth walking because of the hard work it took to get there. Sometimes balance is hard to negotiate and we stray into the area of arrogance. When this happens there is really nothing that can be done about how it will be interpreted by others. As long as you are not purposely setting out to make others feel bad, and not doing anything to compromise who you are; go ahead and walk the line.

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