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For many singles, this trend toward group activities based on common interests breaks new ground in the dating arena. “In a sense, we’re going back to the future,” says Vallone. “It’s as though the ice cream social of the early 20th century has been kicked up several notches.”

Indeed, Highlife Adventures’ 3,000 Chicagoland members would be hard-pressed to find an ice cream social among the over 65 activities planned each month. Those who crave adventure can go parasailing, caving, or experience being a fighter pilot for a day. Music aficionados can revel in a hot night of cool jazz or attend a rock star fantasy camp, while those with cultural interests can attend a performance of the Chicago Symphony or a Frank Lloyd Wright tour. Members who enjoy the club scene can participate in a trolley pub-crawl, a moonlight party cruise, or events like “Martinis and Manicures” or “Pots ‘n’ Shots Pottery Class.”

Vallone explains that Highlife Adventures’ approach serves to bring people together in a pressure-free setting. “When you attend an event, you’re meeting people you already have something in common with and who are all there to meet you,” she says. “And, when you’re having fun, you let your guard down and are more likely to meet the right person.”

This new dating trend is in stark contrast to the bar scene of the 1980s, the one-on-one matching services of the 1990s, and the speed dating phenomena that peaked a few years ago. “Not all singles like to hang out in bars, many don’t care for the pressure of sequential one-on-one dates, and most people find that speed dating is too superficial,” says Vallone. And, while online dating may appeal to the college crowd, many of the 25- to 45-year-olds in Highlife Adventures’ membership have “been there, done that.” According to Vallone, “Meeting people online can be fun, but also fraught with pitfalls. Singles fare better when they put down the mouse, get out of the house, and meet people face-to-face.”

Highlife Adventures helps ensure their members’ experiences are positive by prescreening potential members in person and having a company representative at each event. Ultimately, Vallone concludes, “We don’t match anyone. Instead, we provide unique, fun events where groups of singles can meet one another and find what they seek – whether it’s a friend, a date, or a soulmate.”




Article written by Highlife Adventures Editor.

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/the-several-diverse-internet-dating-services.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/the-several-diverse-internet-dating-services.html Tue, 22 Jan 2008 00:00:00 -0600
Regarding online dating, you will obviously need to spend a lot of time in creating an attractive profile. Apart from having to spend valuable time, you may lose self identity while trying to create an appealing profile to attract interesting people online. Phone personals, in contrast, allows you to talk to someone special in your own way and know their interests and decided whether or not they are compatible to you. It is a better available way to search for a suitable companion. Direct communication is the best way always to know each other in detail, and phone personals provide with this option to find your future partner.

The search to find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with can be a daunting task and equally daunting can being finding a website that offers photo personals. You want to expose yourself to the dating community, but you want to do it the right way. When it comes to picking a website that offers the very best photo personals, the rule is, there are no rules. Why should you limit yourself to just one site?

With millions of singles out there, you should never try and find your perfect match with just one site that offers photo personals. Go ahead and sign up for multiple site that offer photo personals, that way, you will broaden you prospects and have a better chance of finding Mr. of Ms. Right. Photo personals don?t cost that much to join and some can even be free. Giving yourself a wider selection base is the key to finding the person that is perfect for you. In addition, many sites offer free trial periods for you to give their site a test run. Take advantage of that opportunity and use the time to find someone that you can have a real connection with.

Prison woman personals are a great way for incarcerated woman to find a connection with someone special. They are people that have made mistakes in life, but do not want to go through their sentence alone. Many people have found real friendships and even love with prison woman personals. Prison woman personals can be a great way for people to cope with the trials that incarceration can give a person. Sometimes forming real connections with people outside prison is the only way a woman in prison will ever reform and become a good citizen when they get out of prison. That is why prison woman personals are so vital in the rehabilitation process. They offer people a second chance at love and life.




Article written by Isaiah Henry

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/highlife-offers-real-chicago-dating-adventures.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/highlife-offers-real-chicago-dating-adventures.html Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:00:00 -0600
Vallone explains that her approach serves to bring people together in a pressure-free setting. "When you attend an event, you're meeting people you already have something in common with and who are all there to meet you," she says. "And, when you're having fun, you let your guard down and are more likely to meet the right person."

For many singles, this trend toward group activities based on common interests breaks new ground in the dating arena. "In a sense, we're going back to the future," says Vallone. "It's as though the ice cream social of the early 20th century has been kicked up several notches."

Indeed, Highlife Adventures' 3,000 Chicagoland members would be hard-pressed to find an ice cream social among the over 65 activities planned each month. Those who crave adventure can go parasailing, caving, or experience being a fighter pilot for a day. Music aficionados can revel in a hot night of cool jazz or attend a rock star fantasy camp, while those with cultural interests can attend a performance of the Chicago Symphony or a Frank Lloyd Wright tour. Members who enjoy the club scene can participate in a trolley pub-crawl, a moonlight party cruise, or events like "Martinis and Manicures" or "Pots 'n' Shots Pottery Class."

This new dating trend is in stark contrast to the bar scene of the 1980s, the one-on-one matching services of the 1990s, and the speed dating phenomena that peaked a few years ago. "Not all singles like to hang out in bars, many don't care for the pressure of sequential one-on-one dates, and most people find that speed dating is too superficial," says Vallone. And, while online dating may appeal to the college crowd, many of the 25- to 45-year-olds members have "been there, done that." According to Vallone, "Meeting people online can be fun, but also fraught with pitfalls. Singles fare better when they put down the mouse, get out of the house, and meet people face-to-face. We prescreen each member in person and have a company representative at each event to help ensure positive experiences by everyone."

Ultimately, Vallone concludes, "We don't match anyone. Instead, we provide unique, fun events where groups of singles can meet one another and find what they seek – whether it's a friend, a date, or a soulmate."



Article written by Kris Nickerson

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/how-to-avoid-people-who-lie-on-online-dating-sites.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/how-to-avoid-people-who-lie-on-online-dating-sites.html Sat, 12 Jan 2008 00:00:00 -0600
For instance there is the older man or woman who lies about their age. I don’t mean they lie about being a few years younger, but men who are in their 50s but their dating profile states they are 22 years old. An easy way to find out if these people are lying is to ask for a very recent photo of the person holding up the date, to prove it’s actually there photo and not a stolen image taken from some where online.

Then there is the second type of fraud, the creepy guy who contacts you through dating services and then he will start asking for nude photos or explicit photographs of you. These type of guys are usually looking to collect sexual images of random women through dating sites.

Another type of weirdo is the person who joins a dating service just to waste time when they are bored at work for their own entertainment at your expense. Not only do office workers engage in this, but then you also get underage teenagers who get a kick out of lying to men or women and they try to see how far they can take it. They use stolen pictures of models with fake profiles, then they contact you and lead you on for fun.

Some other people who have the internet access and lots of time on their hands are prison inmates. Surprisingly they have internet access in jail and inmates amuse themselves by trying to chat with you. You can nip all of the game players in the bud by asking for their phone number. 99% will get discouraged and leave you alone.

When you get someone’s phone number you can do a reverse lookup, using a reverse phone directory and you can find out the name and address of the person associated with that number. This is an easy way to detect if they are lying about where they live or their name.

If you get the persons name you can do a Google search to see if their name is listed, sometimes names do come up. You can learn a lot about a person by doing a Google search on them.

Another quick way to get rid of all these problems is not to signup to free dating sites. Since free dating web sites don’t require a credit card, game players can easily get away with lying about age, gender or anything they feel like deceiving you about. You will get rid of underage teenagers, prison inmates and many other liars fast this way.

Hopefully I haven’t scared you off from using online dating sites, the amount of people who start relationships by meeting through the web is staggering. It’s a great way to meet people but just be careful. Don’t let a few bad apples ruin the fun, happy dating!



Article written by Richard Gazzo

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/finding-the-right-online-dating-service.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/finding-the-right-online-dating-service.html Fri, 11 Jan 2008 00:00:00 -0600

Is online dating right for you? That's a good question, and we will help you answer it by giving you some tips on what to look for in a dating service.

You can find everything from free dating services to paid memberships. This is really an area where you can get what you pay for. With benefits such as perfect match, profiles, online chat, and so on, you do have options.

1. First of all online dating services are not new. Because there are many well established online dating services you are no longer the guinea pig. Millions of people use them which can be good and bad.

2. Most people will agree that having a large number of people to meet online is quicker than going to bars or social clubs.

3. Ease of use is a great feature as well. Feeling comfortable with everything from the appearance of the site to how easy it is to get around in will be important to you.

4. You may not want your friends to know you are trying out dating services. For this reason your privacy can be important to you. Most online dating services will not require a pictures on your profile if you do not have one or want one. You have control over what you list.

5. Choices are very important, the number of members will certainly offer more choices to you, however this is not the only factor you want to look at. Having sections that offer specific choices for religion, race, sex, interests, etc. really allows you to zero in on the choices important to you.

6. How much are you willing to spend each month for your membership? Different people have different budgets so cost is a factor in finding the right online dating service.

7. Security and safety is always a concern, especially for women. You must know that no private information will be disclosed to a third party without your consent and if you are being harassed by a certain member. You can ask the online dating service to block them or even cancel their membership.

8. What type of matching system do the dating site offer. At first this may or may not be important to you, but it can be a time saver.

9. Features that the online dating service offer vary from one site to the next. Finding the ones that mean the most to you is a good way to choose the right service.

These are a few things to consider when trying to find the right online dating service. The nice thing is the internet gives you many options and you can take your time and do research first.





Article written by Marvin Perry

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In this article we will determine what factors make a good dating service and give you some tips on choosing one to fit your needs.

1. Which features will be the most important to you? If you live in a city a dating service with a large number of people living in a rural area may not be very important. If you are a Christian that values religion finding a member who has the same views as you could be what you are looking for.

2. How much money are you willing to spend on your monthly membership.No matter how much benefits and features a dating service offers, if you can not afford it the point is moot. One bit of advice is avoid free membership sites. As you have noticed in many of these tips paid memberships are better than free memberships for everything from safety to choices.

3. What type of profile matching system do they offer. Your profile is your online resume and the key to finding members to meet. Profile matching is great for filtering through millions of members to zero in on who matches well for you. This does not mean you can not browse all members if you choose that as well.

4. Would you like to have off-line events available to you. Speed dating is one example of members meeting off-line and having a chance to quickly meet a large number of possible dating partners.

5. We should probably list this first for women and that is safety. There are some dating services which will do background checks on all subscribers to certify their background, marital status, and age. In these days and times this is an important feature to have.

6. Privacy can be important at first, along with that is security. You may not want other members to know that you have joined a dating service. You can also keep certain things on your profile private in the beginning if you choose.

This is 6 things that makes an internet dating service good for you. Of course everyone has different things that are most important to them. Thankfully today dating services are more safe and quality oriented to offer you a great experience if you choose to use them.





Article written by Marvin Perry

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/long-term-care-decision-can-take-an-emotional-toll-on-caregiver.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/long-term-care-decision-can-take-an-emotional-toll-on-caregiver.html Sat, 29 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0600
For the caregiver the bitter grief of separation and lingering guilt about the choice continues throughout this period. Caregiver strain can be made even harder by the patient who pleads to return home or asks staff to call the caregiver at home. Caregiver guilt can be devastating. As friends, family and community we can help acaregiver at this time. Telephone the caregiver often, or better still drop by for a visit. Listen to caregiver concerns and offer your support. Caregiving can be a very lonely game. A caregiver who has been out of the "social circle" for awhile will welcome an invitation to lunch or other pleasant outing.

Please don't forget the person in the care facility. Visit often, take old photos to jog pleasant memories and stimulate conversation. Knowing that friends and family continue to visit is a great comfort to the caregiver. We often hear from caregivers dealing with these issues.

Connie Metsger, director of Sun City's Residence for Alzheimer's Care, offers good advice:

"Dear Connie: My husband has recently moved into an Assisted Living Facility. He has had Alzheimer's disease for five years and has reached a stage where I could not manage his care at home any longer. I feel horrible about leaving him there, and I cannot get the image of his sad eyes out of my mind. The thought that we shall never again share the same home often brings me to tears. My friends tell me I made the right choice, and I know that they are correct. I have tried to get back to my old activities, but I feel so callous. How can I enjoy myself when Bob is so unhappy? I end up spending most days at the facility. Is the rest of my life going to be like this? - Judy

Making the decision to place a loved one under care is probably one of the hardest decisions a caregiver can ever be asked to make. Once the decision has been made, it is also very common to question whether you did the right thing. Going to a caregiver support group and hearing this from others may be helpful to you. They can share tips on how they handled their periods of caregiver adjustment. The trials of caregiver adjustment are not easily grasped by those who have not experienced similar hardship. Children and other family members may benefit from counseling as well. These are psychologically traumatic events, and we must deal with them as maturely and sensibly as possible."

Having to place your loved one in a care facility is hard enough. Trying to come up with the money to pay for their care can make a hard situation unbearable. Don't wait until it's too late. Speak to your long term care insurance Buyer's Advocate to see if coverage is right for you and your family.




Article written by Clay Cotton

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/dealing-with-unresolved-emotions.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/dealing-with-unresolved-emotions.html Sat, 22 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0600
Were you taught to be strong, to always keep going regardless of the pain? Do you listen to the well-intended advice to "get over it"? Pushing your feelings to the side or covering them up is a good short-term solution, or so it falsely appears. The problem arises when we continue to push these feelings down day after day, week after week and year after year. Whenever you avoid dealing with your emotions, they eventually will pile up to a point that the feelings will overwhelm you. Holding onto resentments, grief, guilt, shame and will set you up to have problems with depression, anxiety and physical symptoms such as headaches, high blood pressure, and stomach problems.

No one is immune to their feelings. By avoiding our feelings, we begin to distort how we see ourselves; how we view relationships and how we see the world we live in. It's OK to be strong, but the complete statement needs to be "I can be strong and still have my needs and my feelings."

It is not a sign of weakness to acknowledge your feelings. There are both appropriate and inappropriate ways to share your feelings. When you are having tough times in life, there are often people around you who can provide the comfort and support you need. You must learn to seek them out. Do not set yourself up as an island fortress. Seek out friends, family members, church leaders, and your human resource department at work or local therapists through either the public or private practices.

You have a responsibility to yourself and those you care about to take care of yourself. This includes your emotional well being. You are bigger than your feelings regardless as to how intense they may seem. Your secrets make you sick. Seek freedom from your pain. Allow yourself to process your feelings. You'll be glad you did. The truth will set you free. Remember, we are all in this together.




Article written by Mark Webb

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Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/emotional-infidelity-a-love-affair-or-just-friends.html http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/emotional-infidelity-a-love-affair-or-just-friends.html Wed, 19 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0600
These emotional connections often arise at work or in a social context in which working intensively toward a common goal consumes energy.

Here are a few observations of the "just friends" emotional affair:

1. This person often struggles knowing where to draw the line. S/he often throws him/herself into something 100%. Other aspects of his/her life may suffer or be ignored. There often is a lack of personal balance between family, work, self care.

2. He/she struggles with intimacy. (I want to be close to someone, but don't like intimacy.) The "just friends" emotional affair means neither spouse nor OP (other person) ever get "intimate." Neither relationship is fully consummated or has potential for growth.

3. Of course the "just friends" comment means either "stay away" or I'm, underneath all this, really confused about where I fit in relationships, what I want from them, or what they mean to me. There is an "emotional connection" to the OP that defies description. A sad kind of "stuckness or lostness."

The lover or "falling in love" emotional affair has a different twist.

The common complaint to the partner is: "I feel badly about this, and I don't want to hurt you, but, I'm not "in love" with you anymore. "I love you but I'm not in love." This often indicates:

1. This person usually has a need for drama and excitement. Life easily becomes a soap opera. Emotional juice from the fall-out of emotionally intense relationships reigns rather than living life from the core of who one is.

2. The person “looking for love” is actually looking for the ideal, someone out there, who will project back to him/her that he/she is OK. No, more than OK, close to perfect.

3. This person needs to be adored, or think another adores him/her, because there is a lack of inner strength and solid identity. The other becomes my world, because I lack a world. Being “in love” is the panacea for my emptiness.

4. This type of affair often occurs when there is a “lull” in the marriage relationship. The responsibility of raising children, starting and maintaining a career, paying bills, etc. become the focal point for the couple. Romance becomes a foreign word.

There are many many subtle differences in affairs. Emotional affairs are only one kind. Once you begin to see and understand the differences, a new sense of empowerment overtakes you embark on a more confident path of resolution

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Being on the brink of tears makes me think of something my friend and I read together a few nights ago: the story in Luke 7 of the sinful woman who dared approach Jesus in the house of a Pharisee. What exactly she intended to do isn't clear... she probably meant to anoint his head, a sign of honour. Instead, she broke down. She "stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipe them with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment" (Luke 7:38).

There's a LOT in this story, but what stands out to me right now is the way Jesus reacted to the sight of this woman, a perfect stranger, losing all semblance of control over herself and falling passionately down at his feet. Imagine if the same thing happened to you! This was not any more normal in that culture than in this one. Strong emotion is a difficult thing to deal with, and few of us can handle it--even in those we know and love--with great grace.

Yet here is Jesus: forgiving her, honouring her, accepting her contrition, her tears, and her kisses. He isn't shaken to the core, because at his core is compassion, and that compassion flows out to her in quiet welcome. He doesn't write her approach off as dangerous overemotionalism. He answers the prayer she doesn't dare voice--"Your sins are forgiven you." And he releases her into a new life, a new identity. She is no longer a wreck of a woman, a sorry example of humanity destroyed within and without. She is one who loves much, for she has been forgiven much.

It comforts me to know that God has great patience and compassion toward us even when our emotions are raging out of control, when we're pushed beyond the point of acting "normally." I'm gladdened to know that this compassion is in Jesus, because I know that it will be extended to me, in hundreds of ways, throughout my life.

"And he said to the woman, Thy faith hath saved thee; go in peace."

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