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In the past, those who wanted to be or to meet a Sugar Daddy had to use traditional social channels such as classifieds, personals or the usual social scenes. It is obviously not easy to walk up to someone and ask them if they’d be interested in having a sugar daddy lifestyle. Enter the new age of online dating, and not just any type of online dating, but the very specific sort that matches successful and generous Sugar Daddies with young and beautiful Playmates. Through a service such as that provided by SeekingArrangement.com, fantasies about living the Hugh Hefner lifestyle can finally become a reality.

But what does it take to becoming a successful Sugar Daddy? Is dating a playmate or sugar baby girlfriend the same as any other dating relationships? Obviously not! In fact, Sugar Daddy dating is very different. Since money is likely involved, the sugar daddy dating game is potentially full of pitfalls and landmines. After surveying hundreds of successful sugar daddies, we summarize the art of being a successful sugar daddy into four simple rules.

Rule 1: Understand what you are looking for and what you can afford.

Before jumping into the Sugar Daddy lifestyle, one must understand what they are looking for. Are you looking for just companionship and friendship, or do you expect something more? Are you just bored with the regular dating scene, and want something a little more exciting? No matter what it is you want, you need to be clear about what you are looking for and how much disposable income you have to spend on this type of lifestyle. Write down your goals and be realistic!

Rule 2: Clearly communicate what you have to offer and what you seek

Once you have figured out what you are looking for, write a good description of yourself and communicate clearly the type of relationship or arrangement you are seeking. Put on your marketing hat and think of everything good about yourself and what you have to offer – are you charming, funny, caring, understanding, or generous? What are your hobbies, likes and dislikes? Be specific about your budget – if you don’t have a lot to spend say so, that way you won’t attract Sugar Babies who expect too much, and if you are filthy rich, you may want to use that to attract the super gorgeous! Getting to know a person takes time, and by communicating specifically about what you are looking for and what you expect, you will save precious time which may otherwise be wasted.

Rule 3: Be honest, but careful

The internet is full of people who play games, but for the serious sugar daddy this rule says that you can lie but the truth will always reveal itself in the end. Being honest and truthful is the best way to go – i.e., post a real and current picture of yourself instead of your picture from 20 years ago, be honest about your age, your marital status and what you are looking for. Most women are attracted to men who are truthful and honest, and for those who do not like you for who you are, lying won’t change a thing except to waste everyone’s time.

Being honest does not necessarily mean you should offer all kinds of information about yourself to a stranger. Contrary to that, we urge all serious Sugar Daddies to be cautious when sharing information that may be used against them by unscrupulous players. Those who do not heed this advice risk losing money, reputation and possibly their marriage when vengeful lovers turn against them. Trust must be earned, and as such, do not trust someone until they have proven they deserve your trust. Be certain to exercise caution and protect your privacy at all costs.

Rule 4: Don’t be manipulated, and don’t send money to strangers

Where wealthy men and women gather, so do scammers! Since sugar daddy dating normally involves money or gifts, it is important to remember never to send money to strangers and people you have not met in person. Online scammers come in many shapes and forms. The most commonly encountered are users from Russia, Nigeria, Ghana or the Philippines masking as beautiful females looking for help. There are also many local scammers, girls who pretend to be damsel in distress, asking for travel money only never to be heard from again once they receive their payoff. No matter how genuine the story may sound, the most important rule to remember is never send money to anyone you have never met!

Conclusion

Sugar daddy dating can be lots of fun! Imagine finally being just like Hugh Hefner, having sexy, gorgeous and beautiful women who genuinely want to spend time with you. But being a sugar daddy is more than about being with beautiful women… its also about having fun and enjoying all that life has to offer. Since life is short, the time to have fun and enjoy life is now. The rules laid out in this article is a good place to start, but being a successful sugar daddy takes more than just following rules – it’s more an art than a science. Good luck in your search.

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Brandon Wade has a BS and MBA from MIT. He is the founder and webmaster of the largest dating websites including SeekingArrangement.com and SeekingMillionaire.com.

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Does it involve Sex and Money?

Many people often write to ask me if money and sex is involved in sugar daddy dating, and my answer is absolutely yes! Now tell me which relationship does not involve either money or sex? The traditional marriage involves both money and sex, and thus sugar daddy dating is no different. Except that in this case, it starts off as an arrangement – that is, an understanding between the two people involved that there are no commitments or expectations.

What is an Arrangement?

So what exactly is a sugar daddy arrangement? There are many types. In Hugh Heffner’s case, he dates many of his playgirls, and in return, they get an allowance, a boost in their career and even a room of their own in his Playboy mansion. Hugh Heffner becomes a benefactor and a lover. But there are many types of sugar daddy arrangements, for example, a married man looking for a mistress, an executive looking for a sexy “personal assistant”, a retired multi-millionaire who wants a beautiful travel companion, a Hollywood producer who is looking to mentor a gorgeous aspiring actress, or a busy guy with at extra room in his home looking to sponsor a struggling college student with a rent-free arrangement.

Women’s Guide to Sugar Daddy Dating

Finding the arrangement that is right for you is a complex process, as many of the members on SeekingArrangement.com will tell you. As such, I have complied a list of “best practices” or a step by step guide used by some of the more successful sugar babies.

Step 1: Keep an open-mind. You must be open-minded to participate in sugar daddy dating. You will be certain to encounter all kinds of sugar daddies. You may find most sugar daddies are generous, wealthy and respectful, while you will most likely encounter the rude, crude, perverted, pretentious, and abusive types. As with normal dating, you need to keep an open-mind, and understand that just because you meet a bad person does not mean that everyone is bad. There are bad apples everywhere.

Step 2: Know what you want. The best way to screen out the bad apples, or men who are undesirable is to know exactly what you want and what you do not want in a sugar daddy arrangement. Put together a list of the things you look for and the things you will never tolerate. An example of what you may be looking for could include the following: respectful, generous, smart, can afford an allowance of at least $3,000 a month, and must be attractive.

Step 3: Be upfront about the budget. Yes, most people may say that it is superficial to talk about money up front, but when it comes to sugar daddy arrangements, the budget is the key to a happy relationship. By asking the question “what is your budget” upfront, you will be able to immediately separate the men from the boys, the haves from the have not’s. As for men who tell you its superficial to be asking about “budgets” upfront, tell them its superficial to be selecting someone based on “good looks”. Sugar daddy dating is about money and looks.

Step 4: Use your common sense. This is by far the most important rule. No matter what someone may say, do not trust them blindly. Trust must be earned. So if a man tells you he has so much money, don’t just take his words for it. Do your own research. Also, if your sugar daddy decides to help you by giving you an allowance, never accept a check if you don’t know him well. We have heard of horror stories of guys giving girls a check only to turn around to place a “stop order” on the check. These are the “bad apples” we talk about – men who have no business being sugar daddies. So, if you forget about all the other rules, this is the one you always must remember to use your common sense.

Final Advice

For those women who are willing to keep an open mind, sugar daddy dating may just be for you. I personally know of many happy sugar babies who have found successful sugar daddy relationships through SeekingArrangement.com. Beyond the four key steps I outlined above, the most important part of sugar daddy dating is to have fun. When you look at how Hugh Heffner and his playgirls conduct themselves, you will understand that life is short, and life is about trying anything once and having fun while you are at it. So for all those aspiring and future sugar babies out there, I wish all of you the best of luck in finding your ideal Sugar Daddy.



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Brandon Wade has a BS and MBA from MIT. He is the founder and webmaster of the largest Sugar Daddy dating website - SeekingArrangement.com.

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