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Find out about the sexual myths that destroy intimacy - what they are, how to recognize your own myths, and what to do to go beyond them...

Boy do I have a story to share with you.

...and it's really embarrassing.

But here goes....

It was Paul's birthday and we were at our favorite Japanese restaurant. It seemed like we were going to have a great evening -- until we got home.

I guess we had really different ideas about what would equal a great ending to a great night... and things just got worse.

This is the hard part for us to say, because we're supposed to know better... but Paul and I got into such a misunderstanding around sex, or the lack of it, that we couldn't even talk to each other.

Hello? Communication coaches?!

It got pretty bad.

I couldn't get past the pain. I couldn't even do my work the next day. I kept thinking about breaking up -- that I deserve more respect than somebody who's going to complain about me "all the time".

And thinking about breaking up is pretty serious for us: what jobs would we get then?

We're relationship coaches, for Christ's sake!

We were supposed to have the answers to everybody else's relationship pain and here we were acting like five year olds around this argument about whether we have frequent enough sex.

Then, after 10 days of agony, we finally called our coach, the coach of coaches, Linda Hampton.

She saved us!

She made the invisible visible around some of the myths that have been running both Paul and I. After that we felt like we could grapple with the problems.

Once we knew what beliefs our pain was attached to, we could look at them intelligently (or at least more intelligently) and decide what we wanted to do about them.

Linda turned our BREAKDOWN into a BREAKTHROUGH in our relationship.

Everybody needs some outside perspective from time to time to help them see what they can't see.

Even Tiger Woods has a coach.

So why are we telling you this story? What can you learn from our upset?

The first thing is that every relationship will run into a wall. eventually. A wall is when your problem is bigger then your skill set.

If you don't know how to change a tire and get a flat on the highway -- you just hit a wall. If you don't know how to talk about sex and intimacy and your passion goes flat -- you just hit a wall.

Here are some of the myths that can cause you to run into a wall.

-- Men only want sex.

-- Women shouldn't ask for what they want.

-- I lost my sex drive.

-- If your partner stops wanting sex, he/she doesn't love you.

-- He/she never thinks about or wants sex.

-- Only *bad* girls talk about sex or enjoy it.

-- All men are *bad* boys.

-- Men only want a cook in the kitchen and a freak in the bedroom.

-- Men don't want you to tell them what you need.

-- Women don't give men feedback so they don't hurt their feelings.


And here are four steps to create change so that you can break through the wall created by these myths.

1) Awareness (the first step is to realize there is an issue that needs to be addressed.)

2) Understanding (this step can be around understanding the issue, it can also be around understanding your partner and yourself. Remember
that your comfort zone is your enemy in relationships. True intimacy and vulnerability is scary stuff.)

3) Agreement (here is where you want to get clear about your commitment to making a change. Are you in this together or alone?)

4) Action (set up steps to take, find your self a coach, or get relationship CDs or maybe a book you can read together.)

I am going to wrap this up with a couple of good, but tough questions:

a) Is your relationship worth saving? Really take a look. Are you trying to remodel a house that has a crumbling foundation or is there something solid to work with?

b) And are you willing to lead this change and be the one who changes first?

If you can say yes to both of those, you are in a great place.

Also, look at your calendar and your check checkbook and do a mini audit. Can you tell what you value most be where you invest your time and money? How much of your time and money are you investing in your relationship?

Most people are very surprised at how little they give their relationships and how much they want back in return.

Do this relationship audit today... and then start bringing back the trust, honesty, intimacy and passion tonight.

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Kristin Denton & Paul Sterling teach Relationship Communication Skills. Click here to get a complimentary copy of our their Loving Relationship Roadmap Quiz http://www.magicrelationship.com/bootcamp/ -They also give Live Seminars or Tele-Classes including the 4 Steps To Instant Intimacy & Understanding - The 5 Relationship-Wrecking Mistakes -

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Find out about the sexual myths that destroy intimacy - what they are, how to recognize your own myths, and what to do to go beyond them...

Boy do I have a story to share with you.

...and it's really embarrassing.

But here goes....

It was Paul's birthday and we were at our favorite Japanese restaurant. It seemed like we were going to have a great evening -- until we got home.

I guess we had really different ideas about what would equal a great ending to a great night... and things just got worse.

This is the hard part for us to say, because we're supposed to know better... but Paul and I got into such a misunderstanding around sex, or the lack of it, that we couldn't even talk to each other.

Hello? Communication coaches?!

It got pretty bad.

I couldn't get past the pain. I couldn't even do my work the next day. I kept thinking about breaking up -- that I deserve more respect than somebody who's going to complain about me "all the time".

And thinking about breaking up is pretty serious for us: what jobs would we get then?

We're relationship coaches, for Christ's sake!

We were supposed to have the answers to everybody else's relationship pain and here we were acting like five year olds around this argument about whether we have frequent enough sex.

Then, after 10 days of agony, we finally called our coach, the coach of coaches, Linda Hampton.

She saved us!

She made the invisible visible around some of the myths that have been running both Paul and I. After that we felt like we could grapple with the problems.

Once we knew what beliefs our pain was attached to, we could look at them intelligently (or at least more intelligently) and decide what we wanted to do about them.

Linda turned our BREAKDOWN into a BREAKTHROUGH in our relationship.

Everybody needs some outside perspective from time to time to help them see what they can't see.

Even Tiger Woods has a coach.

So why are we telling you this story? What can you learn from our upset?

The first thing is that every relationship will run into a wall. eventually. A wall is when your problem is bigger then your skill set.

If you don't know how to change a tire and get a flat on the highway -- you just hit a wall. If you don't know how to talk about sex and intimacy and your passion goes flat -- you just hit a wall.

Here are some of the myths that can cause you to run into a wall.

-- Men only want sex.

-- Women shouldn't ask for what they want.

-- I lost my sex drive.

-- If your partner stops wanting sex, he/she doesn't love you.

-- He/she never thinks about or wants sex.

-- Only *bad* girls talk about sex or enjoy it.

-- All men are *bad* boys.

-- Men only want a cook in the kitchen and a freak in the bedroom.

-- Men don't want you to tell them what you need.

-- Women don't give men feedback so they don't hurt their feelings.


And here are four steps to create change so that you can break through the wall created by these myths.

1) Awareness (the first step is to realize there is an issue that needs to be addressed.)

2) Understanding (this step can be around understanding the issue, it can also be around understanding your partner and yourself. Remember
that your comfort zone is your enemy in relationships. True intimacy and vulnerability is scary stuff.)

3) Agreement (here is where you want to get clear about your commitment to making a change. Are you in this together or alone?)

4) Action (set up steps to take, find your self a coach, or get relationship CDs or maybe a book you can read together.)

I am going to wrap this up with a couple of good, but tough questions:

a) Is your relationship worth saving? Really take a look. Are you trying to remodel a house that has a crumbling foundation or is there something solid to work with?

b) And are you willing to lead this change and be the one who changes first?

If you can say yes to both of those, you are in a great place.

Also, look at your calendar and your check checkbook and do a mini audit. Can you tell what you value most be where you invest your time and money? How much of your time and money are you investing in your relationship?

Most people are very surprised at how little they give their relationships and how much they want back in return.

Do this relationship audit today... and then start bringing back the trust, honesty, intimacy and passion tonight.

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Click on http://www.magicrelationship.com/sexualmyths to join Paul Sterling & Kristin Denton for a Free Teleseminar with our relationship coach. Discover how move past your stories and beliefs to have the intimacy and sex life you desire and deserve today.

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What’s the difference? What keeps people trapped in dead end situations?

There are three main reasons why people don’t have the relationships of their dreams.

Reason #1: Blaming their partner for the problems. “It’s all their fault!”

The first and most obvious reason is blaming their partner for everything. They think, “If my partner would only change, things would be perfect.” This is such an easy trap to fall into, but if you think about it, it’s very dis-empowering.

Why? Because it implies that your future and happiness depend on somebody else changing. And when you think about how hard it is to change your own behavior (as in dieting, quitting smoking, working out, etc.) you start to realize that this strategy is not going to be very successful.

Reason #2: “People know what to do, but they’re not doing what they know.”

Some people don’t have the relationship of their dreams because they are not willing to do the things that they know would help transform the relationship.

This is often a spin-off of reason #1. After-all, “It’s their fault, why should I change?” It also may be because of past programming, conditioning and baggage. But whatever is stopping you, you may be unwilling to lead the transformation in your relationship.

Reason #3, “You are willing to change, you just don’t know what to change.”

The last reason you might not have the relationship of your dreams, is that you don’t know what to do.

You don’t have the tools, skills and training to deal with the emotional, impactful and important issues that come up in relationships without taking it personally or making it personal — without attacking or defending.

Doctors learn the language of medicine. Attorneys learn the language of law. Plumbers learn the language of pluming. And couples need to learn the language of compassion and understanding for relationships.

You may not have the specialized skills you need to listen effectively so your partner really wants to talk openly and vulnerably with you.(Most people don’t. Not even doctors and lawyers. Look at their divorce rates!)

Or, you may not have the skills that will allow you to talk in a way that your partner will really want to listen and understand you.

When issues come up in a relationship here are some of the strategies people try:

First and foremost is the “Ignore It and Hope It Goes Away” strategy. This is by far the easiest strategy, and at the same time, the least effective.

Occasionally it does work because the level of drama and emotions is reduced. But usually it ends up in only suppressing the drama for the moment, but never resolving it.

The second strategy is asking friends and family for advice. Warning. be very careful about seeking advice from friends and family. Before you do, look at their relationships and see whether or not those relationships are ones you are envious of.

Do they walk their talk? If you followed their advice would you have the relationship of your dreams?

The third strategy is reading articles and books, listening to tapes and watching Dr. Phil or Oprah. I am all for this, as there are some amazing books out there by some great relationship experts. The drawback is that often times what you really need is much more of a hands-on approach.

You wouldn’t want to learn how to parachute from a book “The Idiots Guide To Jumping Out Of a Plane.” But once you know how to skydive, you can use a book for some fine tuning tips.

The fourth strategy is counseling and therapy. I will give you a mixed review on these. There are definitely people out there who can help you totally transform your relationship… but there are also people out there who are charging an awful lot of money and can’t even maintain a relationship of their own.

Most therapy is set up around solving a specific problem, rather than giving you the tools and training to be able to communicate about any issue with compassion, intimacy and understanding.

And then there’s the fifth and often most effective strategy: get yourself a relationship coach.

If you were going to lose weight or get in shape. there are three things you need, first a commitment, next a system you can stick to and lastly a good trainer or coach.

You need someone who will teach you, inspire you and if needed, kick you in the butt to keep on the path.

Getting your relationship in shape is not quick. You don’t go to the gym once a year and actually expect any lasting results. Do you?

Seek a coach who is knowledgeable about HOW to improve your relationship - somebody who can give you the tools to dig out what’s bugging you from your past, and the skill to move through those issues in the present.

Seek a coach who will work with you compassionately. Dr. Phil is funny with his no-nonsense style of coaching (”Get over it!”). But there’s nothing like some compassion and empathy for where you’re at now - for your beautiful desire to improve things - even if your current strategies aren’t working.

Empathy goes a long way toward healing those old wounds. Start today.

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Paul Sterling & Kristin Denton are Relationship Coaches at http://www.magicrelationship.net Get a complimentary copy of their special report “Discover The 5 Roadblocks To Trust, Honesty, Intimacy and Open Communication You Crave… Are They Wrecking Your Relationship? ” http://www.magicrelationship.net/blog/free-report-5-relationship-wrecking-mistakes/

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That was all it took. He was hooked. He had to know more. He went directly to this visionary thinker's office and signed up to work for him.

This stopped any further work in physiology and launched him in a totally different direction. He is now doing what he loves, is very successful and has a powerful and positive impact wherever he goes. Skipping class that one afternoon could very well have resulted in him being one of the most published authors in history...

Yup, we're talking about Mark Victor Hanson co-creator of the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" Series.

And who was his teacher, mentor and guide?

Okay, here's a hint… Albert Einstein once said he was one person who truly understood his work.

He created the geodesic dome based on a whole new system of geometry that he invented. He was an artist and a poet and a spiritualist...

If you guessed Dr. R. Buckminster Fuller you'd be right again!

Bucky has passed away, but Mark and others continue to teach the life-changing principles that Bucky taught them.

And now you can listen to Mark Victor Hanson and 4 others of his amazing contemporaries talk about their memories and lessons from Buckminster Fuller.

Mark Victor Hanson, Bobbi DePorter, Marshall Thurber, DC Cordova, and Tom Crum will reveal the secrets they learned during 5 monthly teleseminar sessions.

Join us for the "On Fuller Living" Teleseminar Series...as these 5 leaders explain the amazing principles they learned that YOU can use to become successful in YOUR life.

During his interview, Mark Victor Hansen tells you about three of Buckminster Fuller's teachings that impacted him the most. They are to…

1. Start macro. Go from the big picture to the little picture. Use deductive reasoning instead of inductive.

Can you image trying to solve global climate change yourself? Everyone -- and everything we do -- is part of the global biosphere. We need to see the big trends and issues before you get to the individual solutions and choices we can make.

Most people were educated to be specialists -- with a degree in one specialized area. But in today's world you need to be a generalist -- be able to cross over into other subject areas, learn new things and broaden your horizons. Specialization is too limiting any more.

2. Change your perception about the world. For example: Bill Gates. He took a world that thought that hardware was everything and said no, software is everything. Now he controls the software market (much to everybody's consternation).

3. Change the metaphor. Move from a world view of competition to one of cooperation. Go from seeing this as a 'Win/Lose' world to a 'Win/Win' world.

As we move from the industrial age to the information age, scarcity is no longer the metaphor. With information, as you spread it around, everybody adds to it and it becomes more, richer, better.

Think about Wikipedia, the on-line encyclopedia that anyone can add content to. The synergy of information makes the site more complete and accurate for the benefit of all.

With industrial commodities (like tin, for example) if you spread it around, then you've got less and you're poorer.

But sharing information equals more and better information. This is Fuller's theory of Synergy.

To show you just how universal these principals are, here's another example of changing your perception and changing the metaphor: Have you ever seen the sun rise and set?

How many of you just said, "Yeah, of course!"?

Think about that again. That's an 'old world' view of the world being flat. It's in our language and doesn't seem to be going away even though we KNOW that the world is round and the sun hasn't moved over night.

It's the Earth turning! (Duh! - smile)

So why do we keep talking about sunrises and sunsets?

Because old metaphors die hard. It takes a great deal of vision to see your way through to a new way of being.

Old metaphors limit our thinking. But by changing the metaphor, opportunities open up.

Change your metaphor about your business and new opportunities will appear where you were stuck before. Past problems become today's opportunities.

The On Fuller Living Teleseminar Series is a fundraiser for a project that grew out of Bucky's World Game. It's called GENI - the Global Energy Network Institute.

It's an amazing and futurist project designed to link the energy networks of nations and continents so that people in even the poorest nations can enjoy refrigeration, reading in the evening and a reduction in the amount of labor they perform.

Why do people like Mark Victor Hansen, Buckminster Fuller, Marshall Thurber, Bobbi DePorter, CD Cordova, and Tom Crum say that GENI is the most important project for the future of our planet?

Well, do you have children? What will the world be like for them?

Will one side of Spaceship Earth be forever fighting the other side of Spaceship Earth? Will some people have a high standard of living while others labor for hours in poverty for much less?

The solution is technology and clean, electrical power. It's the bridge.

As we construct more bridges between ourselves and others, we create more possibility... and with more possibility we create a place where others can live the quality of life we enjoy right now.

And remember, all of the speakers plus Alex Mandossian, the host, are donating their time to help this non-profit with a global vision.

So join us and discover the answer to Buckminster Fuller's question...

"How do we make the world work...for 100% of humanity...in the shortest possible time... through spontaneous cooperation...without ecological damage or disadvantage to anyone?"

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Paul Sterling has helped organize a series of FREE TELESEMINARS http://www.OnFullerLiving.com Listen in as Mark Victor Hanson (author Chicken Soup For You Soul) and 4 other Mega-Successful Entrepreneurs reveal the success secrets and lessons they learned from the futurist and philosopher, Buckminster Fuller. GO TO http://www.OnFullerLiving.com and sign up today so you don’t miss any of these calls.

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You stayed up all night talking about everything - your dreams and desires and even the things that scare or embarrass you. But then, as the relationship went a long, you stopped talking about so much. Everything became so heavy and meaningful.

In the beginning, things were great. There was a level of trust and open communication that created intimacy and understanding. So, what happened to that? Where did it go and how can you get it back?

I used to try to protect my partner from those heavy, bad moods and ugly thoughts. I went to my room and hung out until I felt like socializing again.

I thought I was noble in my ability to control what came out of my mouth.

I thought I was kind because I never let on what I was thinking.

But what I was doing was ruining my relationships. There was no relationship. I was cutting myself off from others and never allowing them to know me. They never knew what I was thinking or feeling or needing.

I was an island. A very lonely island.

I really thought that if I let people know the ugly thoughts, not only would they be hurt - but they would probably become angry and disown me - betray me, talk shit behind my back. I would be the outcast.

So I beat them to the punch! Hah! I'd banish myself to my own room (or apartment, as I got older). I'd banish myself to silence.

You can either have a N.I.C.E. (Not Interested in Connecting Emotionally) relationship... where you hide what is true out of fear. Or you can have an alive, real relationship with intimacy, compassion and understanding.

Some people withhold from their partner and add an extra zinger -- they put on a show of pain and discomfort in order to punish them. It's an effort to communicate just how much pain they're in. But none of it's verbalized. It's a show of the pain.

When you start keeping secrets and withholding,.. when you cut off the sharing of life force between you,... you're cutting off the intimacy in your relationship. Even if you think you're protecting your partner from painful or embarrassing thoughts - it's still destroying your relationship.

Relationships require sharing... both our dreams and desires along with our doubts and fears.

What are you feeling and what needs of yours are being met or not? ...

I'm happy because my need for support in keeping our home is being met.

I'm disappointed because my need for partnership isn't being met in the way we're handling our finances.

I'm sad because my need for connection isn't being met when you're out with your friends every evening.

You can find out more about this style of intimate communication, along with other advice on building healthy, intimate relationships, at our website: www MagicRelationship dot com.

Another tip: when you offer your feelings and needs, it's best to follow them with a request. If you offer them without a request, your partner won't know why you're giving them the information.

Do you want to be just heard?

Do you want advice?

Do you want to come up with a strategy for meeting your needs? Why the heck are you telling me this?

Often, a comment without a request will be taken as blame... which will lead to fixing, fighting or fleeing. Don't leave your poor partner hanging.

Paul and I recommend asking, "Would you tell me what you heard me say?" (Avoid saying 'could'- it implies they aren't intelligent enough to repeat you. And avoid saying "What did I say?" because what you said and what they heard are two different things.)

And one more tip: don't think that little behaviors are enough to be warranted as 'sharing feelings and needs.' Fixing your honey a cup of coffee in the morning is very sweet, but it may not communicate your feelings of love and contentment like actually verbalizing the information. "I love you so much", PLUS the cup of coffee goes much further.

Frowning and throwing around the bed covers while you make the bed may not adequately communicate your feelings and needs, either.

Instead, say: "I'm feeling disappointed because my need for support around the house isn't being met. Would you be willing to discuss a way to help that would also meet your needs?"

There's no room for misinterpretation there.

Try it out this holiday season: make a pact with your beloved to share absolutely ALL your feelings and needs for one day - the good, the bad and the ugly. Then follow the information with a request.

Be prepared to spend some time processing and discussing those feelings and needs as they come up.

However, try to avoid getting into BLAMING and 'FAULT' behind the feelings and needs. That tends to end up in a free-for-all about evaluations and judgments - who's right and who's wrong. Try to stick with feelings, needs and requests.

Try to do this on a day when you'll have the time.

You won't want to get cut off because you have to run to pick up the kids right when you're getting to the heart of an issue that's snuck up silently between you.

You're going to want to stay and hold each other and talk it through... and feel the intimacy of clearing out all of those old, crusty feelings and unmet needs that have been clogging the flow of love.

And, again, you can find out more about this style of intimate communication for relationships, at our website - www MagicRelationship dot com - a along with advice on building healthy relationships.

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Kristin Denton & Paul Sterling teach Relationship Communication Skills - Live Seminars or Tele-Classes including - 4 Steps To Instant Intimacy & Understanding - Relationship-Wrecking Mistakes -To get a free copy of 'The 5 Mistakes Report' go to http://www.magicRelationship.com/freeaccess
Free Report

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Well, first let me set the stage for internet business. If I tell you the secret too soon you may miss its importance and miss your chance to stand out in your customers’ minds.

Once I tell you the strategy, you will say, “Of course! Why doesn’t everyone do that?”

But they don’t. And because they don’t, most people fail on the internet… “Home internet business failure rates are estimated to exceed 90%,” says Lisa Edwards of powerhomebiz.com.

However there is a special group that DOES succeed – wildly – beyond what most of us can comprehend. And they do it in all sorts of areas… from the obvious areas of selling money- making and marketing ideas... to hugely successful dating advice sites... to hamster advice sites.

They do live the internet dream of making enough money to live ‘the good life’ and retire from their J.O.B. (just over broke).

The key to success in any business is learning how to add the most value, most consistently, with the least cost... creating a large group of loyal customers. This secret power is called leverage and the web is made for it.

On the other hand, there’s also lots of competition on the net. You have to attract your prospect’s attention, keep that attention, and build trust without wasting too much of your time or theirs.

A big myth you hear about succeeding on the net is that money is in the mailing list. This is only a partial truth. I could hand you a phone book and that would be a great big list… but you have no relationship with those people… no trust, and they are hardly likely to buy from you.

The bottom line is that the money is in the relationships. Who do you like to spend your hard earned money with? Normally it’s people you like and trust.

What this means is whoever is best at building great relationships... that add lots of value to the customer... at a low cost... wins.

So here is the secret that you have been waiting for… ta-da! It’s the telephone! That’s right! Really! No kidding!

How do the marketing masters combine the marketing power of the internet and the relationship building power of the phone to great their millions? Through teleseminars! And more specifically, by studying the Teleseminar Secrets program of Alex Mandossian.

That’s the secret. And then there are a few more tetleseminar basics to make this secret really churn out the dough.

To start with they use low-cost conference calling lines. That way they can talk to 20 people, or 200 people, on up to 2,000 people at a time.

And here is another amazing factor: you don’t even have to be the expert on the subject you’re discussing! You just interview an expert – and I’ll write more on this in later articles.

Is it work setting these up and making sure you have something that you listener want to hear or learn?

Make no mistake -- it’s work. If you want to do it right, you will spend a few late nights learning and preparing.

However, I was a commercial fisherman in Alaska for 18 years and compared to stacking crab pots, talking on the phone to make millions doesn’t sound too hard.

Now, not everyone is going make it big, but my teacher sure has. His website reports “Alex Mandossian has generated over $233 million in sales and profits for his clients and partners since 1991.”

In fact, marketing millionaires Harv Eker, Mark Victor Hansen, Bob Proctor, Jack Canfield, Harvey McKay, and many others all use the telephone to rapidly build their businesses using teleseminar marketing.

You can use teleseminar secrets to:

o Promote a new product to your email list

o Promote your product to a JV partner’s list or Affiliate’s List

o Promote a JV partner’s product to your list

o Create a new audio MP3 product – plus transcripts

o Teach tips and secrets about anything (via free or paid teleseminars)

o Build trust, understanding and loyalty with your customers

o And much… much… more


People have used them to:

Teach about growing roses

teach about making-money on the internet

train users on software

Train people about tax laws

Teach about real estate investing

Recruit and train new members for multi level marketing businesses

Teach compassionate communication skills to couples (as I and my partner do!)

There is no end to how creative… and profitable... you can be with teleseminars.

One thing, though, is that it pays to learn from the best and use quality equipment for recording your calls. You can start out using free conference calling services that can host from 99 to 200 people on a call and even have free recording services so you can create a product for future sales…

I highly recommend taking a class to get you started. There are many availible, the best... and also the most expensive is with my trainer, Alex Mandossian. You can out more about him get a free guide by going to my blog. See link at the bottom of the page.

So now it’s time to get started. Decide how you are going to add value (teaching something you love to do is a good starting place). Find out where your prospects congregate and get the word out…

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To learn more about teleseminars and electronic marketing make sure to
check out my Paul Sterling Blog http://paulrecommends.blogspot.com/ or get a $79 coupon for the next teleseminar at http://www.taketeleseminarsecrets.com

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The answer is yes.

In fact marketing millionaires Harv Eker, Mark Victor Hansen, Bob Proctor, Jack Canfield, Harvey McKay and many others all use the telephone to rapidly build their businesses.

When they want to bring a new product to market quickly, create a new product or build their e-mail list. they all use tele seminars.

And when they need help... they all turn to the master of free teleseminars Alex Mandossian.

In case you don't already know what a teleseminar is, let me start with a description and why so many of the Internet marketing gurus use them.

A teleseminar is simply a conference call over a special conference call telephone line. There is usually a host/moderator who interviews an expert about a product, service or skill. And then, most importantly, there is a group of people who are on the conference call line in 'listen only' mode. There can anywhere from a few people to several thousand listening.

The host will have control over whether or not, the listeners can ask questions during the call.

Is my recommendation that on calls with over 20 people, the listeners be muted out. If the listeners want to ask questions, they either e-mail them in advance or use a specific teleseminar system that allows them to be sent to the moderator via instant message.

One system I recommend is InstantTeleseminar.com. You can find out more about this system on my blog. This is a more advanced system and allows for about 200 people to listen over the phone lines and up to 2000 people to listen over the Web.

If you are just beginning and don't have a very large group there are several good companies that offer conference lines for free. They even include recordings of the calls, which can then be turned into MP3 files and either sold or set up for free replay on your web site.

Teleseminar are great for
1) doing a free introduction of a new product or service
2) interviewing an expert to create a product
3) introducing a joint venture partner's product to your list
4) introducing your product to a joint venture partner's list
5) doing a training for your affiliate team
6) presenting a one-time training that people pay for
7) presenting a series of trainings that people pay for

There are many other creative and profitable ways to use teleseminars.

The benefit of using teleseminars is how flexible they are, how interactive they are, and how personal they are -- and how easy they are to set up an inexpensive to use.

You could decide to do a teleseminar in just a couple of days and have an e-mail out to your list and before you know it have a profitable and effective marketing campaign going.

To set up a call
1) Decide the purpose of the call.
2) Decide what action you want the listeners to take at the end of the call, such as to sign up for emails or purchase a product.
3) Decide if you need a web sales page or just an email to announce the event.
4) Decide if you are going to be the expert or if you are going to interview someone else.
5) Write your emails - There are normally 3 emails -
1st sent out one week from event
2nd two days from event
3rd day of event
6) Layout a script of the call. Remember to give a reason why the listener should stay on until the end (for access to a free MP3? To ask their questions?)
7) Call in a few minutes in advance. (make sure to record the call)
8) Give it all you've got - and remember to give the call to action - what do you want them to sign up for, buy, etc.

Take action today and set up your first teleseminar.

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To learn more about teleseminars and electronic marketing make sure to
check out my Paul Sterling Blog http://paulrecommends.blogspot.com/ and take the 7-question quiz on electronic marketing at www.taketeleseminarsecrets.com

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A hush-hush, super secret project Mark is about to launch.

Her email stopped me in my tracks and had me totally shift my focus from what I was doing to promoting this new product for Mark - he's that amazing.

How would you like to have the power to capture people's attention at the mention of your name? To have an army of people actively promoting your products to their lists?

Got your interest... yet? I hope so because he does this again and again and again.

How do Mark and the other masters of internet marketing do it?

1) He over-delivers - consistently, product after product.

2) He builds a presence on the internet (viral marketing is key - delivering free content that is shared and shared.)

3) He has websites, many of them - and it's true, no matter what BS people say - you need a website or many (I have about 50).

4) He gets his content out on the net (he writes shorts, quality articles and gets them out on the net - see my blog on how to get them out to many sites quickly and easily).

5) He builds his team. And now you can add Mark Joyner to your team. HE has spent years and years working on the net to become an 'overnight' success.

6) He creates a launch plan.

7) He Builds Buzz and Curiosity - track his and others to see how it works - save their emails - write a step by step flow chart.

8) And I'm sure he continues to learn. Become an affiliate of the Big Guys and Big Gals and learn how it done from the inside out.

9) He builds relationships so when you are ready - people know who you are and will drop what they are doing and help you succeed.

These steps are followed by internet successes including people like Tellman Knudson, Ben Mack and Matt Bacak and others.
Get started toady and watch Mark Joyner's launch and learn.

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Paul Sterling has helped businesses go from $100,000 annually to become multi-million dollar organizations. He currently is building internet businesses with over 50 web-sites in his portfolio. Get tips at to grow your business at http://paulrecommends.blogspot.com/ To track Mark Joyner's launch go to http://tinyurl.com/3ctz4s .

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What's the difference? What keeps people trapped in dead end situations?

There are three main reasons why people don't have the relationships of their dreams.

Reason #1: Blaming their partner for the problems. "It's all their fault!"

The first and most obvious reason is blaming their partner for everything. They think, "If my partner would only change, things would
be perfect." This is such an easy trap to fall into, but if you think about it, it's very dis-empowering.

Why?

Because it implies that your future and happiness depends on somebody else changing. And when you think about how hard it is to change your own behavior (as in dieting, quitting smoking, working out, etc.) you start to realize that this strategy is not going to be very successful.

Reason #2: "People know what to do, but they're not doing what they know."

Some people don't have the relationship of their dreams because they are not willing to do the things that they know would help transform the relationship.

This is often a spin-off of reason #1. After-all, "It's their fault, why should I change?" It also may be because of past programming, conditioning and baggage. But whatever is stopping you, you may be unwilling to lead the transformation in your relationship.

Reason #3, "You are willing to change, you just don't know what to change."

The last reason you might not have the relationship of your dreams, is that you don't know what to do.

You don't have the tools, skills and training to deal with the emotional, impactful and important issues that come up in relationships without taking it personally or making it personal -- without attacking or defending.

Doctors learn the language of medicine. Attorneys learn the language of law. Plumbers learn the language of pluming. And couples need to learn the language of compassion and understanding for relationships.

You may not have the specialized skills you need to listen effectively so your partner really wants to talk openly and vulnerably with you.(Most people don't. not even doctors and lawyers. Look at their divorce rates!)

Or, you may not have the skills that will allow you to talk in a way that your partner will really want to listen and understand you.

When issues come up in a relationship here are some of the strategies people try:

First and foremost is the "Ignore It and Hope It Goes Away" strategy. This is by far the easiest strategy, and at the same time, the least effective.

Occasionally it does work because the level of drama and emotions is reduced. But usually it ends up in only suppressing the drama for the moment, but never resolving it.

The second strategy is asking friends and family for advice. Warning. be very careful about seeking advice from friends and family. Before you do, look at their relationships and see whether or not those relationships are ones you are envious of.

Do they walk their talk? If you followed their advice would you have the relationship of your dreams?

The third strategy is reading articles and books, listening to tapes and watching Dr. Phil or Oprah. I am all for this, as there are some amazing books out there by some great relationship experts. The drawback is that often times what you really need is much more of a hands-on approach.

You wouldn't want to learn how to parachute from a book "The Idiots Guide To Jumping Out Of a Plane". but once you know how to skydive, you can use a book for some fine tuning tips.

The fourth strategy is counseling and therapy. I will give you a mixed review on these. There are definitely people out there who can help you totally transform your relationship... but there are also people out there who are charging an awful lot of money and can't even maintain a relationship of their own.

Most therapy is set up around solving a specific problem, rather than giving you the tools and training to be able to communicate about any issue with compassion, intimacy and understanding.

And then there's the fifth and often most effective strategy: get yourself a relationship coach.

If you were going to lose weight or get in shape. there are three things you need, first a commitment, next a system you can stick to and lastly a good trainer or coach.

You need someone who will teach you, inspire you and if needed, kick you in the butt to keep on the path.

Getting your relationship in shape is not a quick fix. You don't go to the gym once a year and actually expect any lasting results. Do you?

Seek a coach who is knowledgeable about HOW to improve your relationship - somebody who can give you the tools to dig out what's bugging you from your past, and the skill to move through those issues in the present.

Seek a coach who will work with you compassionately. Dr. Phil is funny with his no-nonsense style of coaching ("Get over it!"). But there's nothing like some compassion and empathy for where you're at now - for your beautiful desire to improve things - even if your current strategies aren't working.

Empathy goes a long way toward healing those old wounds. Start today.

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Paul Sterling & Kristin Denton are Relationship Coaches at http://www.magicrelationship.com Get a complimentary copy of their special report "Discover The 5 Roadblocks To Trust, Honesty, Intimacy and Open Communication You Crave... Are They Wrecking Your Relationship? " http://www.magicrelationship.com/report

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And all she wants me to do is listen to her... and enjoy it.

Let's turn things around, just for a second. It seems to be fine to say, "I feel used," "He just wants me for sex!" or "He just uses me as a sex object."

These phrases became part of the common discourse during the feminist movement of the '70s and were much needed in order for women to move past the thousands of years of oppression they had suffered.

"I'm not going to give him sex until he respects me and talks to me in the way I want." This is considered an empowering statement, isn't it?

It's setting up healthy boundaries.

Right?

But there exists a world beyond this sort of withholding and manipulation where we can go that is more empowering for BOTH partners and doesn't take anything away from either.

Doesn't it sound a little strange if a guy says, "I'm going to withhold communication from her until she gives me the sex I want, in the way I want it"? He'd be busted for withholding and coercion in a second flat!

Why is it okay to use withholding as a form of punishment to get your needs met on one side and not on the other?

Is there a way to move out of this world of punishment and coercion completely and express our needs in a different way?

There is. it's a communication technique called the Magic Relationship Method.

This is an invitation for both men and women to engage in a conversation about the elephant that's stuck on the table. ending the manipulative war and getting your needs met in a healthy, healing and empowering way for both people.

How do we stay powerful without being overpowering?

And how do we stay open, vulnerable and honest, fully connected to what we want and what the other person wants, without becoming a doormat and giving up on our own needs?

How do we expose our soft side -- how important sexual intimacy or appreciation -- really are to us without them being used against us... without it becoming a negotiation chip for our partner to use?

What do we do when we give up our strategies like manipulation, blackmail and extortion? When we bust ourselves and reveal our secret, desperate, strategies to get their needs met in ways that don't serve the either person?

First we tell our partner the strategy that we've been using that is punitive so that they know that we know we've been using it. And then ask for the other person's help.

An example of this would be to say to your partner, "Normally when I don't get the love and sex that I want, my strategy is to start withholding love from you (or to stop talking to you) in order to punish you until you change.

But I'm no longer willing to do that.

I'm revealing this strategy to you today because I want our communication to be more open, honest and loving. Please help me by calling me on it when you see it!"

At this point we are declaring that it's no longer an option and you've brought more intimacy to your relationship by revealing your inner self.

You've asked your partner for help - which is what any normal human being loves to do. Do you know anybody who doesn't like to help their loved ones?

And at the same time, the powerfully vulnerable individual fully intends to get his needs met. He fully intends to continue to ask for what he wants and to explore ways to get it that serves both himself and his partner.

To further the conversation you could express your desire to stop allowing yourself to feel the guilt, shame and blame that you hear from her when you express your sexual desires: "I'm unwilling to be embarrassed about my beautiful desire for sexual intimacy.

And I'm wondering if you are willing to explore other ways of getting your needs met, of protecting yourself, and of making sure that whatever you do you do out of love and not guilt blame or shame?"

Transform the way you communicate and you can transform your relationship with anyone.

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Kristin Denton & Paul Sterling teach Relationship Communication Skills -- Live Seminars or Tele-Classes including - 4 Steps To Instant Intimacy & Understanding - 5 Relationship-Wrecking Mistakes - To get a free copy of - The 5 Mistakes Report - go to http://www.magicRelationship.com/listen

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