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It is only The Drunk Monkey’s option about life that is causing you to suffer and causing you to stop. There are no good results or bad results. Good or bad is just your opinion. Because you are Being Unstoppable, you are realizing that success is nothing more than a series of well managed breakdowns, failures, and mistakes! And what are breakdowns, failures, and mistakes in reality? Outcomes. Hmm…Very interesting…I didn’t think that was going to happen! I wonder what would happen if I did this next!

That’s Being Unstoppable! So go for it today!!!! Do something totally outrageous that will catapult your life forward. Approach it like a scientist…interested in what the results might be! And when the result happens, accept the situation as it is and move forward from there. Don’t let The Drunk Monkey suck you into the drama “See…You are a loser! You can’t do it! You are no good! You are stupid!” At some point consider working with our powerful coaching staff to resolve some of those underlying issues The Drunk Monkey is using to make you feel bad…

In the mean time, just accept the situation as it is and declare it perfect. Are you having any results that you feel are victories? Remember that I don’t judge your victories, I just honor them with you, and the really inspiring ones I post on my site.


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Matthew Ferry is an Author and a coach for conscious business people and executives who are committed to feeling bliss and happiness and using that energy to create a successful life. Life Coaching and being a life coach is his main course.

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Since people are into a wide variety of social situations, it is tricky to detect which questions are excellent to use during a conversation. But for starters, when asking a question, keep these in mind: The question should be simple to answer (it’s not a beauty contest, isn’t it?), it is not offending, it’s general and people will not feel pressured answering your question. Once you deliver these basic trouble-free specks and your partner starts to ease up, then that’s your going signal to be a little more personal. You will be a master in delivering excellent conversation questions in no time.

Remember, having a conversation is supposed to be enjoyable for the both of you. So how do you that? It’s simple: Be a good listener. Nothing beats being a fine listener. Nod your head, be engrossed, keep eye contact and be agreeable.

Optimistic or positive questions can also do the trick. It is something that will prompt your partner to speak and interested in the conversation. And also, importantly, it keeps both you conversation momentum. Keep in mind: questions should be not too serious but also not too personal: this can scare your partner unintentionally. Touch on literature or philosophical subjects but make sure you don’t ask offending questions --- by keeping a light and cool ambience, your partner would be able to more honest, act more like herself and talk to you more, and in return, you get to share your own ideals and opinion freely. By mastering these by heart, you will be a conversation pro in no time!

If you would like to discover AMAZING strategies on asking excellent conversation questions, then visit my website to get your hands on my FREE report which has helped thousands of men get women they thought they never had a chance with!



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Mark, Taylor is an expert on seduction attraction and dating. He has helped thousands of men attract beautiful women and get over their shyness and transform into confident men.Master Online Dater.

Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/self-improvement/attraction/how-to-identify-self-limiting-beliefs.html http://www.articletrader.com/self-improvement/attraction/how-to-identify-self-limiting-beliefs.html Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0600 Do you find yourself making the same mistake in various guises and repeating negative thought and behaviour patterns no matter how hard you try?

Do you blame others about situations in your life and not take full responsibility?

If you answered yes to both questions, there's probably a self-limiting belief lurking around that is obstructing you from joy.

A self-limiting belief is a belief held in your subconscious mind that limits you getting what you really want in life, as it says on the tin, it limits the self! So, bearing that in mind, it is obviously of benefit to remove these beliefs in order to get what you want in life, however before we can begin to think about losing them we need to identify what they are.

Importance of identifying self-limiting beliefs

Self-limiting beliefs are in fact faulty or outdated programming that obstruct or even halt your growth. The difficulty in identifying them is that they feel as if they are a part of your core. Their misleading nature leads you to feel that it's just you, your luck, your genes (after all your Mum/Dad/Sister/Brother, insert relevant relative, are like that) or something else that is out of your control.

Another difficulty is that some limiting beliefs are cultural and therefore embraced by society. A majority of people hold them so they feel normal. Well it's not and my aim today is to help you wake up!

Self limiting beliefs are dangerous to your personal growth, identifying them will show you just how many areas of your life are being affected. I was shocked to the core when I started becoming aware of mine and pretty overwhelmed by the realisation that as a self-aware person, I had no clue!

Law of Attraction

The danger with them is that they can be your default thoughts as you have had them for a very long time, so by the law of attraction what do you think these limiting thoughts are inviting into your life!

When you embrace universal laws like the law of attraction, you choose to deliberately create your life. Doing so without identifying and releasing these limiting beliefs, it is the equivalent of putting clean clothes on a dirty body. Your older, deep rooted beliefs have more energy as you've held and projected them for longer. So, identifying and releasing self-limiting beliefs will work wonders for your manifestations as it is a massive release of negative thought patterns and hence negative energy. Once they are released, there's more room for the abundance to flow in.

Where do they come from?

These limiting beliefs come from upbringing, society, experiences, coping mechanisms. Our parents probably didn't mean any harm but they passed on their self-limits to us and gave us new ones as a form of protection. Eg, they may stop us from aiming too high as they don't want us to be disappointed.

Society is just a collection of people, unfortunately a majority of people are limited which is why society can add to or reconfirm our self-limiting beliefs. Society tells us that we are limited by our education, class, race, age etc - just in case anyone's unsure this is class A b*llshit!

Limiting beliefs can come from experiences and coping mechanisms as sometimes we develop ways to protect ourselves from certain things in life. The problem comes when we hang on to them even when they no longer serve us. For example, a child learns not to trust people due to being continually let down while he was growing up, but he carries that into all his adult relationships with people he can trust, usually pushing them away.

The self-limiting beliefs I identified within myself were self-punishment, self-sabotage, fear of success, fear of failure and fear of personal power. Some of those overlap, but you get the gist of it. My negative programming manifested itself in that I allowed myself certain levels of success (through bloody hard work!) and then I would run out of fight and destroy everything.

Looking back the reason I didn't see the real problem was due to my philosophies of:

no pain no gain

you must suffer for success

the absence of suffering and sacrifice leads to mediocrity

I was not aware that my thinking was faulty as the reality I had created supported it and living in a Capitalist society, my views were in line with that, so I was heading for success as far as I was concerned.

By the law of attraction, all I was getting was pain, suffering, sacrifice etc. Also, by law of attraction all of my success stories I'd heard of were of people that had lost everything and built it up again and generally stories that fitted my philosophy, so I believed I was on the right track.

As said earlier, these beliefs can be clever little things that you may not notice so depending on your level of self-awareness you may not know what's holding you back. Here are some ways to become aware of my unwanted programming.

Ways to identify your self-limiting beliefs

Dream interpretation - Dreams can be extremely useful in determining what's happening in my subconscious, especially recurring dreams. A recurring dream is like your subconscious constantly tapping on your shoulder trying to get your attention about something. I'm no dream guru by any stretch of the imagination, but when I realise I am having recurring dreams I set about researching what it could mean to me and what I could do to address it. Dreams paid a huge part in my identification of self-punishment as a limiting belief I held.

I was constantly having the same kind of dream where I was being attacked by the same people. I knew these people in real life and had fallen out with them, which was the right thing to do but it was difficult. The dreams were telling me I felt guilty and guilt always looks for punishment, my subconscious was telling me that I had a belief that I needed to be punished. I set about learning about releasing this in real life and made steps, after a few months the dream changed into me having more power in the dream and standing up for myself. A few months after that, I was catching punches being thrown at me with my hands and overpowering my oppressors. The dreams ended with a final one of a conversation where we decided to go our separate ways, made peace and apologised to each other. I knew then that I was over that and I've never had one since. Don't underestimate the power of your dreams.

Questions and honest answers - Grab a pen and paper and be open and honest with yourself. List the area(s) of your life that you are unhappy with. Deal with each one in turn and explore why you are unhappy in those areas. Really get into why the situation makes you unhappy, what you could do change the situation and what situation you would be happy with. Explore what put you in that situation in the first place, what beliefs do you hold that have led you here. What beliefs would take you to the situation that you have identified you would be happy with.

Really let your hands go and keep writing the answers to each of those questions. If you are being 100% honest, you will be on your way to identifying your self-limiting beliefs, you may even be clear as to what they are.

Goal setting - The process of setting clear goals can help you to identify your limiting beliefs. Particularly answering why you haven't achieved your goals so far ,what has stopped you. Answer fully, honestly and truthfully. Review your answers and read between the lines, remember there are no external reasons for not achieving them so far.

Everything in your life you have somehow created. I know this doesn't sit well with a lot of people but unfortunately I didn't make the rules. It is unexplainable and there is a reason for everything so don't feel blamed. Look on the bright side, the great thing is that this also means it is within your control to change! When you are continuously unable to do something because of someone else, you need to look deeper and be honest with yourself what the real problem is, clue - it is never outside yourself.


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Now, we’re not engaging into something criminal and we’re not promoting adultery over here. Flirting is a normal thing. It is harmless and normal, but totally fun. Now, what is it that makes married women tick? It’s probably because they are not getting the kind of attention that they need from their husbands, so they decided to wing it to check out the other men.

To be blatant about it, married women who flirt seek a sexual relationship. There is no commitment, no obligation. Just stolen moments that satisfy their thirst for something that is probably lacking in their lives. More men confess sexual relationships are the best: no dates (married women would not want to be seen with other men), everything is pledge-free, and be sure to expect a very wild and unabashed sex life.

Here are some guidelines to seduce married women:

Give them your 100% attention. Married women who flirt are most probably depressed with their married life so they seek new horizons. Let them feel that they are beautiful and sexy. Most of them are insecure since they feel they are less hot than when they were single. Treat them like they’re not married at all. This would totally turn them on. Keep things light and spontaneous. Sure, it’s not a serious relationship but at least keep things stress-free. They will love your naturalness and may consider having a sexual bond with you in no time.

If you would like to discover AMAZING strategies on how to seduce married women then visit my website to get your hands on my FREE report which has helped thousands of men get women they thought they never had a chance with!


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To be true, the answer to this question is NO, unfortunately. Most of us don’t really concentrate on the best things in our lives. On the contrary, we tend to only see what’s most unfortunate or sad. If something wrong is going on, we barely think of something else but to that unhappy situation, instead of focusing on the potential solutions. Apparently this is deep-rooted in our human nature and it takes quite some practice to change this habit.

Consider this: is it difficult for you to accept the fact that just by thinking – really thinking – about it you could be happy? Well, if you cannot accept this, you have a long way to go to settle things down with LOA. If you think that it is impossible to get rich, to be healthy, to be loved, to keep fit, to love, the immediate consequence delivered by virtue of LOA is that you will not be rich, healthy, loved, fit or loving. In other words, thinking in terms of impossibility attracts the impossibility of all the things you desire, but don’t feel confident enough that you can get. In this manner, you are summoning only the negative aspects of LOA.

If you want to call forth the positive attainments of LOA, you need to focus on the things you want. Don’t over-exaggerate with the idea that you don’t have them. On the contrary, allow your mind to picture them, dream them up, and anticipate just how it feels to have them. You need to be confident that you will obtain all those things you envisage. This is how LOA will suggest to you the best possible means of getting what you need. Indeed, LOA will not make happiness fall from the clear blue skies: it will offer you the best approaches that will facilitate your road towards happiness.

In the end, it is all a matter of positive vibrations. Of course, some work will have to be done; LOA is not a magic wand or the fairy godmother that will make you thin in a second or bring you wealth at a clap of hands. On the contrary, in order to have access to the proper mechanisms that will lead your way to attaining what you wish for, you need to grow aware of the influence that LOA has on the fortunate or unfortunate development of your enterprises. So prepare your mind to accept the positive things in your life and positive outcomes will not fail to turn visible.

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David Hooper is founder of the Guide for Living Institute, a think tank designed to help people enjoy life. His new book on Law of Attraction is available at Amazon.com or can be downloaded free of charge at www.receivethebook.com.

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Stakeout: Gibbs (Mark Harmon) and the team witness a homicide while trying to catch a thief on "NCIS" (8 p.m. CBS).

No soap: The contestants visit the set of "The Young and the Restless" and get their acting skills evaluated by stars Michelle Stafford and Joshua Morrow on "Beauty and the Geek" (8 p.m. CW).

Inspired: The top eight finalists perform inspirational songs on "American Idol" (8 p.m. Fox).

The writing on the wall: "Nova" (8 p.m. KCET) documents the effort to decipher the Mayan system of hieroglyphics.

For the halibut: Each team must accurately slice a halibut into 6-ounce fillets on "Hell's Kitchen" (9 p.m. Fox).

Not so friendly skies: Wedge-tailed eagles attack a paraglider on "After the Attack" (9 p.m. Animal Planet).

Crime: Filmmaker and rape survivor Lisa F. Jackson travels to the Democratic Republic of Congo and talks to women and girls who were raped and tortured by members of the Congolese army in "The Greatest Silence: Rape in the Congo" (10 p.m. HBO).

Alert: The 2006 TV movie "Amber's Story" (9 p.m. Lifetime) tells the story of Amber Hagerman, whose abduction and murder led to the creation of the first Amber Alert system.

Women's college basketball: NCAA final (5:30 p.m. ESPN).

Baseball: The Dodgers visit the Arizona Diamondbacks (6:30 p.m. FS Prime); the Cleveland Indians visit the Angels (7 p.m. MyNet).

Pro basketball: The Lakers visit the Portland Trail Blazers (7 p.m. KCAL); the Denver Nuggets visit the Clippers (7:30 p.m. FSN).



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One thing to remember is that the girl you approach may very well be just a nervous as you, so it is important to try and put her at ease as fast as possible.

You can easily tell if a girl is hoping to meet someone simply by watching her for a few moments. One thing though, do it carefully.

If she catches you staring, it could easily unnerve her. If your "covert" surveillance reveals that she is alone, (at least without male company), and that she keeps casting enquiring looks around the room, she is almost certainly hoping to be approached.

Now, if you can also "accidentally" lock eyes with her, smile and get a return smile...you're in luck.

By asking the right questions from the outset, you can discover a lot about her personality, and her likes and dislikes, and it also gives her the opportunity to respond and gain information about you at the same time.

Questions to ask a girl at first is whether she is local and where she works, what she does for a living. A nice easy opener this one, and an easy opportunity for her to talk confidently back to you.

Remember to offer similar information back about yourself, and in
the case that she doesn't actually ask you too, volunteer the information anyway.

Asking about favourites is another cool thing to do. Favourite actors, films, books, singers, bands etc. The reason it is cool is that again it allows her to talk back to you confidently and if you respond with similar information, you are both building a picture up of each other, building rapport with one another and will soon know if the relationship is one which you would both like to develop. The best way to get some one into is to have commonalities with them, or at least pretend to.

If you would like to learn EXACTLY the best questions to ask a girl are, how to ask them and discover incredible strategies on how to attract beautiful women then visit my website to get your hands on my FREE report which has helped thousands of men get women they thought they never had a chance with!

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Mark Taylor is an expert on seduction, attraction and dating. He has helped thousands of men attract beautiful women and get over their shyness and transform into confident men.Master Online Dater.

Source: http://www.articletrader.com ]]> http://www.articletrader.com/self-improvement/attraction/importance-of-visualization-in-loa.html http://www.articletrader.com/self-improvement/attraction/importance-of-visualization-in-loa.html Fri, 11 May 2007 00:00:00 -0500 As it can be seen, visualization techniques can be applied in many areas of one’s life where they are used to create the experience you wish to experience. Positive visualization is composed of two components where you develop a clear image of what you want to create and combine this with a strong positive emotion. It is not necessary to have a picture as a mental image; it can also be words, thoughts or sensations.The first step to positive visualization lies in deciding what exactly you wish to create in your life; if this is not decided upon, you can create using ‘broad brushstrokes’. This is a concept where you define the general events in your life, while omitting specific details. So if you don’t know have an idea of a life partner, you envision a harmonious, joyful and romantic relationship. With this image, you generate feelings of love and joy in your mind. Once these board brushstrokes are developed, you wait till the universe fills in the details of the picture you had created. Once you are sure of the details you want in your image, you can imagine these events in your mind’s eye. You can create something specific, but its manifestation comes in quickly if you leave all responsibility of filling up of the details in the creation to the Higher Self. So if you wish to have a new car, you can believe that God will get you the best car possible. You just have to imagine yourself driving a car of no particular model and car and you will find God surprising you with something much better than you had imagined. So it can be said that visualization is a very powerful tool of the consciousness where you combine visualization and prayer, love or faith to overcome any crisis that you may face.

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Pickup girl chapter 1: Tamping the foundation guys of wet behind the ears.

It is the first step that costs troublesome, pickup girl doesn't except! Maybe you meet the girl you like, and prepare to chase her, so in first, what kind of the first impression should you leave to girl?

1, Pickup girl firstly you should let the girl understand your upward mobility.
The greatest charm of a man depends on a career success, youth may have no such a success,when pickup girl, you should let the girl feel you are a person that has the potential for success. Other things can be nonsense, but this problem cannot be ambiguous.You must tell girl, you are confident to the future.You are not satisfied with the current situation, and you have long-term plan, anyhow your future is not a dream.

2, Pickup girl should appear a bit more mature,be conscientious and a considerate person.
As a result, girls mostly are petite and weak,so whenver you should behave a bit more mature.When anything crops up calm, unhurried,that has fatal attraction to girl. When pickup girls, do not resemble a kid, the girl hopes to be able to seek a support. Show your confidence and responsibility to her. Let her feel you can protect her and depend on you.

3,Pickup girl remember don't be too honest, but it is too informal is also do not.
The humour can attract a girl, let her feel to mix you together very happy. The serious place is serious, when should joke, just joke. The girl likes to have the man of bit of cynical, do not appear to care about everything, that is too prim.

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Using a brain imaging technique, Swedish researchers have shown that homosexual and heterosexual men respond differently to two odors that may be involved in sexual arousal, and that the gay men respond in the same way as women. The new research may open the way to studying human pheromones, as well as the biological basis of sexual preference.

A pheromone is any chemical or mixture of chemicals produced by a living organism that transmits a message to other members of the same species. The term "pheromone" is usually used for sexual attractants. There are some other pheromones - they act as signals for alarm and defense, territory and trail-marking, and social regulation and recognition. Pheromones are now being used in insect control, for example as bait to attract males to field traps or, in very high concentrations, to disorient insects and prevent mating.

After long dismissing the search for a human pheromone as folly, scientists have begun to take a second look at how human body odor influences sexual attraction. The magic scent is not only a romantic elixir but the aromatic effluence of our immune system. The only trouble is we don't give it half a chance.

Although it's now clear that pheromones exist, the way our body processes them has yet to be well determined. Animals have a vomeronasal organ (VNO), which perceives the substance and then leads them to mate. Some anatomists don't think humans have a VNO; others think they've found pits inside our nostrils that might be VNOs, but may not work.

Pheromones in humans are believed to be produced by the apocrine glands. These glands become functional after reaching puberty, which could explain why most people develop an attraction for others at that time. Pheromones could also be the reason why a person can sense "chemistry", or feel an instant attraction or dislike when first meeting someone.

The Swiss researchers found that women taking oral contraceptives (which block conception by tricking the body into thinking it's pregnant) reported reversed preferences, liking more the smells that reminded them of home and kin. Since the Pill reverses natural preferences, a woman may feel attracted to men she wouldn't normally notice if she were not on birth control--men who have similar MHC profiles.

Dr. Cutler's original studies in the '70s showed that women who have regular sex with men have more regular menstrual cycles than women who have sporadic sex. Regular sex delayed the decline of estrogen and made women more fertile. This led the research team to look for what the man was providing in the equation. By 1986 they realized it was pheromones.

When you're looking for the man or woman of your dreams, unsuspecting pheromones in your body scent are most likely playing a large and very clever role in mate attraction. According to an article in "Psychology Today," how our body odors are perceived as pleasant and sexy to another person is a highly selective process. We usually smell best to a person whose genetically based immunity to disease differs most from our own. This could benefit you in the long run, making for stronger, healthier children.

The alluring chemical scent that young women give off to attract men seems to provide the same effect for post-menopausal women. When the scientists added the scent, a pheromone, to perfume used by older women, their romantic lives seemed to improve, the researchers wrote in New Scientist magazine. The study was also published in the Journal of Sex Behavior. Study leader Joan Friebely and her colleagues applied the test to 44 post-menopausal women. Those who used the treated perfume found their partners to be more affectionate than those who used the normal perfume.

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