Why Systems Work For Your Computer And Not For Your Dick

A lot of men out there are under the impression that they need to have a system in order to meet women. They believe that there must be something that you can say in every situation and a good quick follow-up that can be used every time to ensure that you nail the phone number.

Systems are great for programming hard drives, for typing code into a website and for online marketing. But when it comes down to meeting women, you need to throw out the systems and become present.

The only system that you need in order to meet women is a system based on paying attention to everything that's going on around you and in the conversations you're having. Without listening and paying attention, how are you ever going to know what to say next?

When you talk to one of your friends, you don't have the conversation scripted out. You don't walk over to a new friend and think “Hmmm . . . there must be a system to create new friendship attraction.”

What you really do when you meet a new friend is pay attention to what they're saying, and then formulate what to say back based on what's being discussed in the conversation.

You don't think these things when talking to a member of the same sex:

What do I say next?
Wow . . . I hope they like me.
Do you think I can ask them out on a friend date?
When is the right time to close them to become a new friend?
There's two of them here . . . which one wants to be my friend first?
Wow! Did I say the right thing? Are they going to want to be my friend?

You miss the point.

The only system you should be working on is learning how to listen, observe and become a better communicator. If you become a better communicator, more people are going to want to be around you.

When I work with clients (whether one-on-one or in a bootcamp), I teach them how to create a lifestyle. I teach you how to become a celebrity in your own life, so that everywhere you go people become attracted to you.

I don't teach men systems for chasing women. I teach them ways to become the kind of man that women will find irresistibly attractive and confident.

Without confidence, I don't care what system you memorize and perform. It will not work until you understand the importance of working on your self-confidence.

Getting a phone number means nothing. You can collect phone numbers like little girls collect butterflies. Asking for a phone number is not the end result.

The end result is having somebody who is irresistibly attracted to you offer you their phone number. Getting a phone number is easy. Getting the right phone number is what dating is all about.

So it's time to look deep inside yourself to see if this so-called system you've engineered is working for you. Confidence is what attracts everybody in life.

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