Avoid Rejection

Rejection is the feeling a person experiences when disappointed about not achieving something expected or desired. It is commonly related to a quest of emotional relations, such as, but not just limited to romantic or possibly romantic couples. A person may feel rejected or moved due to a real act or negative thinking from an undue course of action (inaction).

Actual rejection can be caused by many reasons: lack of reciprocal interest, circumstances like societal codes or boundaries, desire to make the other person perceive difficulty ("playing hard to get") and fear of placing himself or herself in a situation of vulnerability and heightened interaction.

An undue course of action (inaction) of rejection generally refers to unresponsive act of a request from the other person. An example of undue course of action (inaction) is that the targeted person is not returning a phone call, an e-mail message, etc, and thereby he is creating a feeling of rejection. Whether or not the action or inaction is done wontedly to reject someone, the person who is requesting or expecting a response would perceive it as negatively. She or he would create negative thinking in their mind that would lead to a feel of rejection. For Example, He is refusing to return my call because he does not like me, and I do not matter that is why she has not responded, etc. In reality perhaps the other person has not responded because she or he was on vacation or had forgot or simply that the caller forgot to provide a return number, etc.

However, the feeling of rejection whether the actual rejection occurs can make the person experiencing it undergoes a sudden drop in emotion, learning that the defensive desire is dashed. This is displayed as something ranging from an unclear sadness to major depression; and at the same time the rejected person senses helplessness consciously, perceiving that he or she is at the rejecting person's mercy.

People avoid or cope with rejection in several ways. For example, they may wish to correct these circumstances and to bring the rejecting person within their control. In this case a person may, for example, compile poems and unsent letters, a relatively safe way. Destructive responses include stalking or powerfully abducting the rejecting person.

The experience of rejection is often complex in the presence of spectators. The mere attention of spectators, either during or drawn by an act of rejection, may seem embarrassing to the person rejected. It goes without saying that in severe cases he or she may feel pilloried. The prospect of this occurrence is named as a cause for fear of rejection.

The person who operates out of a fear of rejection ends up pushing away the very friends, family, and helpers who care for him or her. The pulling away of these caring ones appears to be rejection, and the vicious cycle goes on with unhelpful results.

To avoid being rejected, see that you spend a normal life with your friends, lover, ex-lover, girlfriends, parents and in the society.

Michael Teo is an expert on the Human Psychology and Behavior.