Love is Patience

Love is Patience

Love is one of the most powerful motivators, and we are born with a lifelong

thirst for love. Love is built on pillars of patience and kindness. All

other characteristics of love are extensions of these two attributes. This

is where our path begins, and that is with patience. When you choose to be

patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation. You are slow

to anger. Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm, unlike

an inpatient person that reacts in angry, foolish, and regrettable ways. All

of these emotions will never make things better, but usually generates

additional problems. Patience is a choice to control your emotions rather

than allowing your emotions to control you, and show discretion instead of

returning evil for evil.

If your spouse offends you, do you quickly retaliate, or do you stay under

control? Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something is

mixed with disappointment or grief. Patience, however, makes us wise. It

doesn't rush to judgment but listens to what the other person is saying as

well as waiting to see the whole picture before making a judgment decision.

A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but eh slow to anger calms a dispute" (

Proverbs 15:18). Statements like these from the Bible book of Proverbs are

clear principles with timeless relevance. Patience is where love meets

wisdom. And every marriage needs that combination to stay healthy. Patience

understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give

them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to

hold on during the tough times in your relationship rather than bailing out

under the pressure.

But can your spouse count on having a patient wife or husband to deal with?

If she locks the keys in the car, will she be met with a demeanor of anger,

or understanding? It turns out that few people are as hard to live with as

an impatient person.

What would the tone and volume of your home be like if you tried this

biblical approach: "See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but

always seek after that which is good for one another" (I Thessalonians 5:15).

Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise

men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage

relationships. That's a good starting point to demonstrate true love. This

love process is a journey, and the first thing you must resolve to possess is

patience. Think of it as a marathon, not a sprint. It's a race worth

running.

The first part of this Love process is fairly simple. Although love is

communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of

our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say

nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not

to say anything. It's Better to hold your tongue than to say something you'
ll regret.

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