Age difference – does it make any importance?

In the online dating world Russian brides usually have relationships with the men who are older than them. So today it's very common that a 18-20 year old girl going out with a 40-45 year old man. Although it can seem strange of course, but there are some reasons for it.

It's a common knowledge that the girls mature faster than the guys. In the FSU countries this process is much more accelerated. Many children here know what a lack of money and food is, they've seen all that corruption and unfair proceedings of the country, challenges of life, some of them even had to fight for their lifes and the lifes of their lose people in the early childhood. Girls, in particular, often face behavior that in some other countries could be considered harassment: many women can find a job and earn money only if they win favor of their male bosses; often women in Russia are perceived as merely dolls without brains. Basic instinct of self-preservation and aiming for improvement make Russian brides search for better alternatives and men, who will appreciate them.

During the last years there was a tendency among Russian and Ukrainian women to marry men close to their age who were their high school sweethearts or college and university friends. Statistics show that 50-60 percents of marriages break within first three years of the union. Many women end up leaving the relationship with children, as well as disappointment in men of their age from their home country. As a result, they turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous, wise and caring.

Also there is a psychological point. As long as many girls grow up in "incomplete" families and are often abandoned by their fathers, when they search for a relationship, on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other words, they are looking for a "father figure". They sometimes don’t even realize it, but when they turn to older men, they are looking for someone to be their protector, someone who'd take care of them and give them security.

Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, until recently a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure and begin getting serious about starting a family only close to their 30s. That automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the partners. Add to it the time that men spent with the "wrong" partner in a previous marriage or relationship, and that puts available male candidates right at their late 30s – early 40s, which creates such a huge age difference between the ladies and them.

But you should always remember: true love has no boundaries. If you find someone who seems attractive and interests you as a person, be daring and take a chance of finding your Russian bride despite the age and distance.

Oksana Boichenko

OksanaLove, Inc.

http://www.oksanalove.com

The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half – just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.