Creating a good profile

The process of filling it out can seem daunting, but in the end, it will be worth it. We are here to offer you a few simple rules to follow, which will help you make the most of going online and will yield results in letters, contacts, and communication.

Be open

If you have come to a dating site in hopes of finding a reliable partner for future, this is probably the most important thing to remember. It would be easy if the perfect person magically was the first one we connect with, but chances are, before you find that one and only woman, you will have to make contact with many people. When you are filling out a profile and write "Tell you later" for your name, or other basiñ information, you are not very likely to attract serious women with long-term intentions. Such an action, which might seem witty and humorous, in fact makes you look like a kid playing around at best, and someone who can not be trusted at worst. Women who are seriously interested in finding a partner will want to find a mature, honest man behind a profile. Of course, you do not have to share your whole life story or sensitive private information, but being open and understanding of what women are looking for is your first step in finding the love of your life.

Be honest

By now we all know the difference between lies that are "bad" and ones that are "white" (and seemingly harmless). But when it comes right down to it, a lie is a lie. Many people misrepresent themselves in hopes that they will lose that weight or overcome certain character flaws by the time they meet in person. It is really easy to do since you have a computer screen instead of an actual date or meeting in person. However, even small inconsistencies and harmless truth stretching can come back to haunt you. Of course, your woman can turn out to be ok with the fact that you are a couple inches shorter, a few pounds heavier, etc, but the underlying message that it will send her is that you can not be trusted. If you can lie about little things, why shouldn't you be the same way about more serious matters? We suggest that you fill out your profile accurately and honestly, updating it as necessary. Besides, this is the only way you can find a partner who loves you for who you really are and accepts you just the way you are.

The same goes for your interests and positions on bigger things in life (i.e. family, vacations, holidays, etc.) If you do not enjoy shopping - simply do not talk about it, if you can not stand opera - do not promise your potential partners that you will take them to it weekly. Instead, talk about things you do enjoy, so you build a relationship based on common interests, or at least let your lady know what it is you enjoy in life.

Be realistic

Many different dating sites will tell you that certain things in your profile will attract more attention from the opposite sex. But if those things sound nothing like you - it is best not to mention them all together. If you make a statement about yourself, be sure that it will be something that will be evident in your communication or personal meeting. Not everyone is born handsome, outgoing, or funny, but everyone has some positive qualities that will attract interest of the opposite sex. Stress those qualities that you feel are positive about you: it will help women to get to know the real you from within, and you will not have to hide anything when you meet in person.

Post photos

Placing photos in a profile seems to be far from a priority, but it is one of the cornerstones of making a great profile. You do not have to place your entire life's worth of photos on the internet, select a few pictures of yourself that you like (so you do not feel self-conscious and are more confident) and perhaps a few photos that would make a statement about your interests - if you enjoy sky-diving, place a great photo from one of the jumps, etc. It will give people an idea of what you look like, but also tell them about you as a person.

Be specific in your wants

I once heard a saying "Be careful what you wish for.. for it might come true." Take some time to think about what it is you really want in the woman of your dreams. Outward appearance might be a serious criteria for you, but if you are more interested in finding someone who is caring, loves sports, and is looking for children, mentioning the latter is far more important. And we also suggest to avoid making lists that are too rigid: if you have a list of 100 points of what your perfect woman is like, well, it might be a great idea to mention only the most important ones. Leave yourself some room for flexibility so you do not seem uncompromising, limit your own choices, or miss the chance of a lifetime.

The final word

While it might seem like a little thing to some, double checking your grammar and using appropriate language are also important. Sloppy writing can make you seem careless, offensive or sexual references will not attract women looking for serious relationships, and following online etiquette will make you pleasant to correspond with.

However much or little you decide to share, remember that the finished profile should reflect your true personality. Best of luck in your search!

Oksana Boichenko

OksanaLove, Inc.

http://www.oksanalove.com

The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half - just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.