Living Single and Facing the Jigsaw

A single man or woman is a person whose choices are tough and concrete and magnanimously huge. From waking up to after the setting of the sun, most of the decisions made in the glare of the night or day are single handed. Yet, the society we live in emphasizes coupling and living as a pair, heightening the sense of singlehood. From a dinner for two in a hotel, to dancing in the club, life seems to be aligned against the state of singlehood. Ask yourself why you sometimes pay extra cash for a bed that is made for a single person while enjoying your vacation. Look at all the friends you call your own, yet they are couples, which makes your single-Dom a serious malady. In most dinner parties we are excluded since you lack another half, and if we do, then we are easily matched with a caricature that we wield lots of differences in terms of similarities by our pals who are really desperate to get us a partner.

The adult society around many developed nations contains approximately 33% of individuals in singlehood and what is remarkable is the rate of increase. In many areas within the lines of service industry, a single being has become the newest market and a financial opportunity for many to cash on, with many commodities coming forth. The bitter thing is it stresses a state that we really don't want to be constantly reminded about. Once in the world we meet myriad number of couples and we are left wondering what the magnet of attraction was when we are walking treasures that nobody cares about.

Living single thus calls for optimism. It means believing and keeping it positive even when adversities challenge us. These adversities challenge us at the back of our mind where there is an occasional ‘what if…' What if I meet a novel person tomorrow? What if I live my life alone forever and never meet anybody? What if no one likes me? What if l was meant to stay single for ever? This is the whispers of singlehood which we throw away and battle each passing day just to live with optimism.

Optimistic thoughts engulf us from the realization that many of us will come across a person, an individual we could call my ‘right'. Though, as many a single beings get older, worries begin to creep in, foraging into a silent panic. If at all meeting that perfect individual or match will be possible, it has to happen prior to us getting too old. It is our sincere wish that it takes place while we are not very old. As the thirties sets in, the speed of aging speeds up. While we are within the precinct of twenties, our time occurs as endless. The wrinkles that occur at the corner of our eyes are the ones that remind us that every time we wake up we find ourselves much older still as single as yesterday.

Singlehood is a burden of responsibility that we carry in our carefree existence past 25 years of age.

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