Single and Living So

For most of us living single, it occurs as if we are living in pure bliss or painful existence. Singlehood is mired by different hues of life which transform each and every thing we do and even think about.

Through dating instances, we are always keeping our daily hopes alive. It is a realization that there is a glimmer of hope after the fall of darkness. And while the recent person was not the one, at least it appears we are headed towards the right way. This is the consolation of being single, which enables us to cope. Everyday, we are struggling to keep those hopes burning and alive. What we do is convince our egos that living single is a matter of choice as we wait for the right person to enter into our lives. In a way this is true; it's what in essence, what each single human being is doing. The clock might be ticking away and the hair thinning away, but we are hopeful, we will arrive there eventually.

Living and being single does mean staying with lots of frustrations which nothing else in our lives could ever match. We are lacking the explanation as to why we are living alone. What happened? Where did things started on a wrong path? Why did it happen? Where are all the right males and females? Could be they have vanished or snapped up. Could be they are not there and we are living lies. Then you remind yourself of the friends you know in wonderful relationships and the kind of proof you have always wanted is thrown your way. But the questioning of your being single continues. You could even find yourself questioning your judgment, even wondering whether we have totally missed our model chance to enjoy a wholesome relationship. Could be we are choosy. Maybe it is not your fault. It really can't be yours.
There are many things single individuals like to forget, and there are other things that they cannot be able to control. These things become constant reminders of their status quo. Once vacations, holidays, from Christmas to thanksgiving arrive, we are heavily reminded of the taste of singlehood. Valentine time reminds us of our solitary nature and why our singlehood should never be permanent. You feel that this year however, all will take a new turn and you will be single no more. Our hearts are set on a couple of potential beings and we are hopeful that things might lead somewhere. No one knows, by the onset of the Santa season, engaged is what we will be.

Married individuals are often left thinking that grass is greener across the other side of the blue line. More so, those in harsh relationships are in constant dream of being single and the kind of freedom that come with it. A single individual is respected by those in fiery and hellish relationships. Sometimes it is nice to be single, until the cupid arrows haven't found you yet.

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