Speed Dating: A Modern Short Cut to Developing Meaningful Relationship

Relationships are what life on our planet is all about. But for many people today it is difficult to find the time to form relationships. People's lives are so hectic they hardly have time for their immediate family members. In response to the pace of life many have sought to build relationships using one of the many forms of social media. It has given rise to relationship where people only know each other's screen name and on-line profile. The yearning for face to face human interaction has given rise to a new phenomenon. It is a concept called speed dating.

Speed dating calls for a group of men and women to meet in a room. They are separated by sex. Each man present is then allowed a limited amount of time to speak with each woman there. Generally the time ranges from 90 seconds to five minutes. During that time if two people feel a connection or develop an interest in each other they then exchange contact information and attempt to build a relationship. It is a great way for people pressed for time to begin to connect with each other, but to be able to find someone with whom you can begin to form a relationship with based on two to five minutes of interaction you have to trust your instincts and ask questions that elicit the information you consider to be important.

When heading to one of these events, preparation is important. You have to decide what is essential for you to know to identify someone that is compatible to you and with whom you will enjoy getting to know better. Asking questions about interests and hobbies is a good way to start. Following those up with a question about the person's vision of a perfect relationship can be revealing and helpful. Use tasteful humour to gauge the other speed dater's sense of humour. Have them complete the statement 'I have the most fun when...' This will help you to understand what they enjoy and help you to see if you are compatible.

Speed dating gives busy people an opportunity to meet and speak with several people in a short space of time. It gives you the freedom to ask probing questions at in a first conversation that may be inappropriate in other social settings. The key to success in this type of social interaction is to use humour and candour to quickly draw out the information that is important to you. Asking simple questions like 'What do you love?' and 'What do you hate?' can also be revealing. Many times the rhythm, tenor and tone of the interaction can also reveal if two people are indeed compatible.