The Essence of Being Single

For many of us being single do conjure and bring out diverse meanings. The fact is, it is depicts the way many of us live. For some lowly minor group, it is what they always want to be, and may be the way they will be, always. For the many of us, it means a perpetual war with optimism. They say that hope is an eternal spar and we were not created to live alone for ever. For the forlorn monk it might be life designed to dedicate but for you and me, it happens to be a temporary state; that is the hope we have each passing day under the sun.

If there is something that is not easy, it is living single. It seriously means that in any passing day we are overtly responsible for each and every decision that we carry out. Sharing decision making is out of our hands since we lack another human member in our lives to share the misery and consequence of life with. We do trust the friends in our lives though we can never form a solid bond with them, as would happen with a person with whom we have a personal relationship.
Thus it is our business as single human beings to make those decisions that are important to us each and every passing day, whether we will go for dinner, to work, where to go partying over the weekend and even what we will be doing during vacation amidst making a decision on how and where to socialize.

Once we arrive at home in the evening, there is hardly anyone to welcome us in the house, so we have cats and dogs as pets and company. We prepare our meals alone or just forget it altogether, and generally, we live in solitary existence that has been punctuated clearly by our friends, social lives and the routine of work. The solitary and single most issue with us is that we hardly discuss what is gnawing at our minds even when we are burning to. Within the social scenes, we can discuss things at a small extent, as well as calling friends through the phone, although it lacks a comprehensive compassion that can be received from partners we could have within our relationships.

Even cooking for a single soul is a very painful experience. The essence of cooking is being able to share it with like minded people or someone. If we have a wonderful movie we might not enjoy since we are alone. Going shopping means we lack the fun of making decisions together. And then there is the case of sex. Lone sex is a reality in singlehood, but of course, it's not what our anatomies were created for.

In essence, the single being loses the joys of a close relationship, from companionship, empathy, understanding and love iced with a tinge of romance; we are left to fill the vast void with what we want, since the decision is ours.

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