The serial dating phenomena

Online dating is a lucrative business with millions of people visiting these sites every day. It gives a person a chance to meet many new people than you would have imagined. Online dating has given birth to the serial dating phenomena. Just like ordinary dating where the real sweetness of the game is in the chase (at least for a man), the old habit has crept its way into online dating. Serial dating is an addiction that is afflicting many online dating users. It might have accelerated due to the many online dating users who are readily available through technology. It is very easy to fall prey, actually it is like any other addiction. In the serial dating phenomena nothing beats the thrill of the chase. Seeking, hooking a person, communicating, flirting and meeting one person after the other. Its a cycle that is hard to break once it establishes momentum.

The scenario of serial dating is a mind set. A serial dater falls victim of this addictive habit and develops a comfort zone around it. The habit is hard to shed once it is well established. It is like a student who wishes schooling could be endless due to the good socialization and easy camaraderie. Creating a comfort zone around a habit is the worst mistake that a person can do. Unless a person changes the mind set and is ready and committed to adopt a new mind set,then its the only chance of redeeming oneself from the addiction.

In a serial dating phenomena there is no room or chance for a serious relationship. The acute requirement by the serial dater for newness undermines any chance of establishing a long term relationship. Satisfaction is derived from the thrill of the chase. Once a serial dater has cajoled and successfully convinced a person into a relationship, it marks the beginning of the end. It is weird but the eventual meeting of the two daters is usually the last straw. The relationship becomes lukewarm for the serial dater. It is no longer alluring. There is nothing to look forward to. It offers no thrill. Another search begins in earnest. And the cycle begins again. The new relationship is relegated to the background where it dies a natural death.

Finding yourself in the vicious cycle of serial dating, whether your very own or someone else can be disconcerting. It is a sure recipe of ruining any possibilities of a relationship. Assess your gaols and most importantly your motives as well as the motives of your online serial dater. Do not be disillusioned by dating but rather try and get an equilibirium. Try your level best and identify the motives of the people you meet online. Find out if your initial assessment was correct. Be very keen on their motives as it will give you an early opportunity of raising a red flag by addressing their actual motives. Do not fall victim to the serial dating phenomena. Use your own judgement to establish whether the risk you are about to take is worth all the pain. You can pay attention to your intuition and heed what your instinct tells you.

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