Things to stay away from in the online dating

Honesty is the best policy. When you are using a
oksanalove.com>dating site and do not see a person face to face, it is

very tempting (and easy) to stretch the truth: add a few inches to your

height, give yourself a bit more credit, etc. Little white lies seem

harmless in making ourselves look more interesting or simply different than

what we really are; but of course, it is best to avoid this, especially if

you are interested in finding a loyal true partner, who loves you for who you

really are. Sooner or later, when you meet, and these things can come to

light, you will have all the chances of ruining a relationship simply because

your partner will be given a great reason for losing trust.

A goal of most relationships is to create communication without boundaries,

but there are still a few subjects to avoid in the beginning of your

exchange. Some of these are politics, religion, and your former

relationships. These are topics that most people feel very opinionated about,

can feel touchy about, or get easily aggravated and temperamental over.

While these subjects can show your passion and conviction, it might not be

the most appropriate time to exhibit them when you are trying to get to know

each other. It is best to keep your discussions to topics that are pleasant,

light, and help you to discover more about each other in terms of your life,

family, or interests. It might be tempting to discuss your former

relationships (to find compassion for paining wounds, or on the contrary, to

show your good points), but until your partner asks for this information, or

you are certain that your relationship is secure enough to discuss this, it

is best to refrain from bringing up such information.

You should also try to keep things easy without venturing into personal

topics too quickly. It takes time to get to know a person's true personality,

and we suggest you allow yourself enough time in talking and getting to know

each other, before taking things to a different level. Communication in

person can bring about completely different feelings and impressions as

opposed to talking/chatting through a computer. It might be a good idea not

to discuss private subjects unless you have met in person, established

chemistry, and had a chance to understand how each of you feels about

personal matters.

Computer slang is also something to consider. Due to cultural differences,

various levels of computer literacy, and possible misunderstandings, it is

best to spell out and phrase clearly what you mean. Most
oksanalove.com>Russian women do not have regular practice of using a

computer (especially for chatting), so many abbreviations can be difficult of

them to understand (LOL, ROFL, etc). In my personal experience, most

translators that handle letters from men have had little exposure to native

English speaker's environment, so many slang words and peculiar cultural

issues can be difficult for them to interpret as well. In general, it is

best to explain more than to say less: so if you are talking about holidays,

places, or people particular to your country, do not hesitate to ask an extra

time whether your Russian sweetheart is familiar with what you are talking

about. After all, if you join your lives in future, it will be helpful for

her to be familiar with some of these things.

Also, if you feel you do not understand your sweetheart properly or the

message you hear is very different from what you would expect, it is better

to ask what exactly your Russian woman means, instead of letting the matter

go. Cultural differences can make some things sound harsh, or have a

different meaning in different countries, so do not hesitate to ask more

questions.

It is also advisable to avoid discussing overly serious matters through

online chatting or letters. Online communication, especially with translation

and cultural differences, can be the biggest source of misunderstanding and

miscommunication. It is hard to interpret properly a message coming from a

person in the absence of physical presence, voice, and facial expressions.

You are better off to leave discussing serious subjects to phone calls, or

personal meetings, when it is easier to settle any questionable matters at

once.

Remember, no matter the situation or communication means, remain yourself

and be sincere - this will help you battle any communication problems.

Oksana Boichenko

OksanaLove, Inc.

http://www.oksanalove.com

The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half - just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.