Why I should not write to one woman

It is common knowledge that men and

Russian women perceive things differently. Most men, when selecting the

woman to write to, will generally base their decision on what they see. Well,

while understandable, this is not the most sensible way to select the woman

for correspondence (especially, for creating a lifelong relationship with).

A woman's appearance is not an indicator of her personality and inner

qualities.

It is very important to remember that pictures can be very misleading.

For one, ladies usually will select their best photo to place as her "face"

on the site. Nothing wrong with that, we all like to look good. For another,

most photos are likely to be made by a professional, which means a woman

took time to do make up, to dress up, etc. It does not mean that she looks

this way every morning or every day while running errands, taking care of her

family, etc. Pictures are rarely an indicator of a lady's personality.

Someone who looks good and gentle in pictures can be rough and harsh in life,

and someone who looks serious and mean can be afraid of cameras or simply not

photogenic.

A lot also depends on the setting, where a picture was made. Done in

summer time, you can obviously see more flesh, but it does not mean that the

lady is promiscuous or immodest, if a woman's profile features photos made in

winter, she is bound to look more conservative, but she isn't necessarily

that way in real life. Photographers also play an important part in creating

the image you see on the website. Every photographer has his/her own style

of taking photos, some will tend to make everyone look more thoughtful,

others will try to make photos more candid. And since most women do tend to

be shy around the cameras, they generally trust the photographer as they

would a professional.

So, it is important to remember that when making a judgment about a woman

based on just a few pictures, you can easily be mistaken. Paying attention

only to the photos can lead to creating an image of something that is not

really there. Even the profiles often do not convey the full message of what

the person is really like. They generally leave room only for a few standard

descriptions and basic phrases, which certainly are not capable of conveying

the lady's true wishes and requirements of what that woman wants from her

partner.

When you end up writing to that woman, whom you consider to be your

perfect match, you are already in love with the image, which you have created

in your own mind! And when you share this with the lady, well, you are very

likely to be disappointed, because no woman will accept an explanation that

she is the only one for you because she is so beautiful.

It is a common misconception that a woman will look more favorably at a

man, if she knows he is writing to her only. This is not really so. Being

practical, most women really will not understand how a man can make a

decision about his future wife based on a couple photos and brief profile

information. Instead of becoming special to her, you become strange, which

are not the same things.

Naturally, you should be honest when you correspond with several women at

once. In such a situation you should write that you are taking time to get

to know several women and set an agreement that should both of you feel

interested in pursuing just one relationship, you will let each other know

about this honestly. This will seem a much more plausible reasoning to any <

a href=http://www.oksanalove.com>Russian bride. It will make her

appreciation for your attention even more, if she knows that after some time

you have selected her and stopped other correspondence, because she is the

one who touched you the most. Such an approach will only prove to your lady

that you are honest, serious, that you set real goals and are not a

daydreamer, that you are sensible and look at things rationally and respect

her choice (after all, she might be interested in several men also), and that

if you continue to write to her - you are still interested in getting to know

her.

Whatever you decide is up to you. But we suggest honest correspondence

with several women as the option, which will help you make the most of online

dating.

Oksana Boichenko

OksanaLove, Inc.

http://www.oksanalove.com

The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half - just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.