How to forget an old relationship

Everything Reminds Me of Him

I can never forget about him. No one was as cheerful or as understanding as he was. The places that I go to, the songs that I listen to, and even when I look at my face in the mirror, I remember him… I guess it's my destiny to live in such pain; I don't think i will ever forget about him.

Rana

Everything Reminds Her of Him?
Years ago, before getting a deep understanding of psychology, it used to take me a long time to get over a breakup. Nowadays, it just takes me a few days to forget about anyone, simply because I succeeded in recognizing the myths that our society fills our minds with about love. Rana doesn't seem to have recognized those myths and that's why she is talking in such a depressing way. If she were just to understand the truth, she would have been much stronger in facing her recent breakup and would have found no problem in forgetting about her boyfriend.

Have you ever heard a song then suddenly found yourself remembering a situation that happened to you years ago? This is called an anchor, which forms when two events keep occurring together until they become one thing in your mind. For example, that song that reminded you of the situation, and the situation itself were anchored together in your mind, and that's why when one of them occurs, you remember the other one automatically.

Anchored to Him!!

Imagine then, what would happen if you kept going to the same places with the same person, if you kept doing the same things over and over together. In the end, this person will become anchored with each of these activities and places, and so as soon as you bump into any of these places, you will unavoidably remember him.

How to Forget About Him?

Forgetting about a previous relationship is very easy. In the case of that old song that constantly reminds you of your partner; by listening to this song while not with your love, you will be gradually removing the effect of that song's association with your breakup, in other words, you're releasing the anchor to your previous relationship. Eventually, you will find yourself not moved in any way when listening to it.

So, if you want to forget about someone, just live your life normally without trying to remember him, and as you keep visiting these places without your partner, the anchor will weaken then completely disappear and he will no longer linger in your mind again.