The Seven Spiritual Laws of Divorce

It is important to know that the breakdown of your relationship is for a greater purpose. Understanding some of the basic spiritual laws of the Universe will help you to discover that there is a reason you’re going this pain. These laws will guide you through the process of healing and bring you back to a place deep inside that is filled with wisdom, knowledge, and compassion for the human experience. Below are the first three of the Seven Spiritual Laws of Divorce that are at the heart of my book, Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life.

The Law of Acceptance

The first and possibly most important spiritual law is that everything is as it should be. Nothing occurs by accident and there are no coincidences. We are always evolving, whether we are aware of it or not. And our lives are divinely designed for each one of us to get exactly what we need to support our own unique evolutionary process.

The Law of Surrender

When we stop resisting and surrender to our situation exactly as it is, things begin to change. Resistance is the number one culprit in denying us our right to heal. We resist out of fear that if we let go, if we surrender, our lives will go out of control or we will be faced with circumstances we can't handle. When we are willing to look at our situation and admit that we don't know how to fix it, we are ready to get the help we need.

The Law of Divine Guidance

God will do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. When we get out of our own way and let go of our defenses, we become humble. Humility is the doorway through which the Divine can walk into our lives. Without humility, we believe we can do it ourselves. Without humility, our false sense of pride, or ego, prohibits us from seeing the entire situation with clear eyes. Our egos remain in charge until we step outside our righteous belief that we are independent and separate beings. As long as this myth is intact, we keep the door closed to our higher wisdom.

These spiritual laws, and the four subsequent laws, are a guide and will serve as a reference point for your healing process. They are designed to help you break through your fears, dissolve your pain, and understand the deeper meaning of your situation. When these laws are integrated and practiced they will give you the freedom to create the life you have always dreamed of.

To further support you in healing your heart and moving powerfully into your future, I would also invite you to set aside some time for some inner reflection and journaling. This will assist you tremendously in using the pain of your separation or divorce as a catalyst for the next, greatest expression of yourself:
Healing Action Steps

1. Make a list of five difficult experiences you have had. Next to each one, write one lesson that you learned as a result of it. How has that lesson helped you in your life?

2. List twenty favorable things that have come out of your separation from your partner. As the following list suggests, the benefits of your breakup may be significant or quite superficial. It may be helpful to look to your grievances for inspiration. If you are unable to find any, ask friends and family to help you. Your list might look something like this:

♣ I don’t have to share the bathroom.
♣ I have more time for reading and self-reflection.
♣ I can be myself without having to please someone.
♣ I don’t have to make dinner anymore.
♣ I don’t have to answer to anybody regarding my comings and goings.
♣ I feel free to go back to school.
♣ I can invite friends and family over any time of the day or night.
♣ I’m getting to know myself again, only now at an even deeper level.

By Debbie Ford, #1 New York Times best-selling author of five books, including Spiritual Divorce; The Dark Side of the Light Chasers; and The Best Year of Your Life. For more information on Debbie’s Spiritual Divorce Coaches, Spiritual Divorce Audio Course, and more, visit www.debbieford.com.