How To Forget The Past Relationship

The past that refuses to go away casts its shadow very long into the present and the future. Many of us have had break ups in the past and now desire to go forward .But something destroys every new relationship that we try to develop. This can be worse because if you find that your every new relationship is breaking apart, you will start searching for faults in yourself. The truth may lie somewhere else. Let us examine the process.

What happens after a break up? This largely depends upon the intensity of the earlier relationship. More intense the love, more hurt will result after the break up. And if the break up took place because of unfaithfulness of your partner, it will hurt you more. The memories of time shared will haunt forever. A look at something shared will bring in an avalanche of past memories and will take away your peace in a moment. The past can be very destructive. It kills the person, it kills the present and the future. It can haunt one forever.

How to come out of it? There are no easy ways out of this. Some of us will never come out of the grief for our lifetime. One method that can be tried is this. Imagine a reservoir of emotions. Imagine of many reservoirs. In one, you have your longing for the one you lost. In another you store your memories of good times. In yet another you have stored pain that you are suffering from. In this manner imagine of many reservoirs. Till they are emptied, you will not become new. Am I right?

What is to be done? Please empty them out. It will take time, in some cases many years, but you can empty them if you really want. Live through all your longing again and empty that reservoir. Similarly cry as much as you can and feel the hurt the lost love has given you. Experience everything fully, suffer from all the pain and try to empty out all that is in your heart. Get help from God. Download and view these screensavers to get motivated. Screensavers- Living , Screensavers - Everyday Thoughts This whole process of living through everything again and beginning afresh is very painful. But if you want to live again, please do this.

Many of us hide our hurt, avoid thinking about the good moments shared together and in all possible ways try to be so busy that the feelings don't come out at all. But the feelings are very much there inside eating away our vitals. These feelings will never allow you to move forward in a positive way. Please remove everything from the mind and the heart by reliving and go forward. You may no longer feel the hurt and the pain with the same intensity, but it will be very difficult to fall in love with another person again with the earlier intensity. Please accept this fact. Your beloved who left you has taken away something very vital from you - your faith in goodness of human beings. But after emptying out totally, you will at least be come a normal person, who can carry on life if not like a robot, than like a person without any feelings. At least you will not feel the pain of death every moment. Everyone of us is not lucky to have happiness. Please accept that fact and try to live to contribute something positive to the world.

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