How Are You at Dealing With a Break Up?

Dealing with a break up is not easy. This is because inevitably, feelings are hurt by the rejection. The person who actually does the break up may well be sad also. This is because often they still care for the person they have broken up with, and they feel sad that they have hurt the person. But they feel that the relationship cannot continue.

Although this is sad when a couple are dating, it becomes more tragic when it is an unhappy marriage that is breaking up, or a live-in relationship. The longer a couple has been together the more hurt that happens when a relationship breaks up.

When you do break up you need to spend some time thinking about what actually went wrong with the relationship. Are you desperate to have your partner back? What can you do to get them back? Do you want to save your marriage? Please believe me when I say the answer is not to phone and text your ex partner countless times a day so they know how unhappy you are. That is not going to bring them back; it won't help your marriage, or solve any problems in your relationship. It is not a great way to deal with a break up.

You do need to totally give them space - let them be. I know you want them back in your life, but begging, pleading, will not do it. Give them space, because they need to have time to miss you. When two people first break up, the person who did the break up will dwell on the negative side of the person, all their negative characteristics. But as time goes by, they will remember the good side too. You need to wait until they are thinking of you in a less negative light before you contact them. A month will do the trick.

A Month! You may be thinking that is such a long time. But you will do well to keep yourself busy until this passes. During that time, you can do much to improve your own circumstances. Some websites have ebooks that will help with personal development advice.

After a month feel free to contact your ex partner, but keep it light. Perhaps a "how are you?" text would be a good way to start trying to save the relationship. By this time your ex has had time to simmer down, and start remembering some of the great things about you. Do not get over confident!

When your partner texts you back, keep everything very light-hearted, do not get bogged down in a conversation right away. Act busy, even if you are not, and do not let them think you are just hanging around waiting for them to call. Make yourself rare; remember the rarer things are the more valuable they are!

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Elizabeth Fitz is a wife and mother of three wonderful children. Passionately interested in human psychology,
she is an advocate of marriage and her advice is a valued part of many peoples successful marriages.

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Elizabeth lives at home in Scotland with her husband Paul, three children and a variety of pets.