The Do’s and Don’t’s of Online Matrimony

A lot has been said about Online Matrimony being unsafe, impersonal, deceptive etc but the fact is that matrimony in the real world is also not entirely free from duplicity.
Though it is much easier for people and families to fake their profiles online, a few precautionary steps can help you in having a safe and secure online matrimony.

What you should do and what you should not do while looking for a life partner online:-

The Don’t’s of Online Matrimony:
Don’t trust easily:

True and honesty are two of the most significant virtues of humanity but in Kalyug, it is more important to take certain decisions from ‘head’ instead of ‘heart’. When you are interacting with a particular person on the Internet, you should always be cautious and patient and avoid rushing into a relationship. Before trusting someone completely, never forget to ask a few questions to yourself like:

What ever I know about this person, is it sufficient?
If you are in doubt about your knowledge of the match, try to know him/her more before taking any step further. Take your time. It’s a decision of a lifetime.

Don’t sideline your instincts because of practicality:

Though it is difficult to give logical reasoning for your experiences and opinions, we should not sideline our instincts. If you are in self doubt a person, just cross check on him/her with the help of secret sources. Also, consider the fact that is it right to be in a relationship with someone who you need to investigate?

Don’t close your eyes ever:

Be precautious at every step. You should be concerned if he/she does any of the following without offering an acceptable explanation:

• Regularly disappears and becomes unapproachable by phone and/or email
• Provides incomplete or inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, and so on
• Avoids talking to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
• Refuses to give you a home landline number and only calls you from work
• Gives indirect answers to you direct questions
• Appears in person to be very different from his or her online persona
• Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or any of his family members

The Do’s of Online Matrimony:
Do tell the complete truth about yourself as well:

It is equally important to be true to the other person as well. Initially, you might feel a little apprehensive but it is important to gain confidence of the other person. Remember? Honesty is the best policy.

Put your best picture:

First impression is the last impression. You might be the most handsome or the most beautiful person alive but if your picture is somehow not matching your looks, you might miss out some interesting matches.

Be friendly but careful:

Try not to reveal much about yourself. Meet in person before talking about certain things like your family life, professional life and all that you want to share. At times, the person may turn out to be different.

Keep your family in loop always:

Your family members should know about your every step. Right from chatting to meeting, you should keep them updated. Initially, you might feel that you should be independent in your approach but your family will be first one to stand by you if a problem occurs. Ultimately, they know what’s best for you.

Do keep a check on your emotions:

It’s very easy to get infatuated with someone online. Don’t let the realities fade into the futile fantasies of online world. Though it’s not wrong to fall in love with someone, a little precaution is required. There are many people online who like fooling others by making fake and fraudulent profile. You might feel the urge to talk to that person/know more about that person but be patient. As such important decisions should not be impulsive.

Last but not the least, it is important to be yourself more than anything else. Just be the way you are. He/she will fall in love with you, they way you are, whether you meet him/her online or offline.

The probability of finding the perfect life partner is more or less even in the real or virtual world. All you need is the desire to meet and know someone, and the spirit of adventure to get you started either way!

Sukhpreet Kaur Sawhney writes on behalf of Jeevansathi.com, which is India’s fastest growing matrimonial website, provides online matrimonial classified services. Jeevansathi.com enables users to create a matrimony profile on the website and allow prospective grooms and brides to contact each other. Users can search for profiles through advanced search options on the website. Users can avail free registration and make initial contact with each other through services available on Jeevansathi.com via Chat, SMS, and e-mail.