You Can Kiss My Backside Goodbye

It’s not easy to yell: “You can kiss my backside goodbye” even if you are being treated badly. You once had a good relationship and you hate to give it up. But if you must break away you have to utter those magical words. It is a perfect expression for the way that you feel. After you’re done expressing yourself, your partner will quickly leave without actually kissing your backside goodbye. But don’t be surprised if that happens. Some people have no pride.

The universe is always going through changes and that includes relationships. If you look at old photos you will see that your appearance has changed. You are no longer the same person that you once were. Years of happenings have changed you. The people you now socialize with are not young anymore. If you have been married for many years it is most likely that you are living with a person you no longer care for. It is obvious that your spouse is not the same person that you were once in love with. Your partner might be fat, homely or just smell bad. If it was years later, and you met your spouse on a blind date, you would rather be alone, then be with such a disgusting looking person. Many married couples stay together despite their distaste of each other. They have many good reasons to do so. But it is rarely for love.

Couples that have recently met and have become lovers often break up within a few months. The most likely cause of the split is that most guys get tired of the same woman and start to treat her badly. He is no longer bringing her roses or telling her how much he cares. Not too long ago they were making love day and night. Now they have replaced love making with scrabble. The other causes of break ups between couples that have recently met are often reality. Truths that were hidden when they first met are now being discovered. The biggest shock to a woman that has been seeing a guy for a while is finding out that he is almost broke and has no way of earning a living. If he confesses that he flips burgers in a fast food restaurant she might have a stroke. The other reason for a break up would be that he is married and has a few kids to support. A confession of an incurable venereal disease by one of the partners is a sure reason to split. But if both partners confess to having the same terminal venereal disease they might stay together for practical reasons.

Many couples break up in a violent way. The most extreme cases make news headlines.A Man and woman that were once in love brutally kill their once loved partner. If all the murdered spouses were put in a line, that line would encircle the globe many times. This is the worst way of ending a love affair. There are many battered men and women that have suffered severe injury because of a violent mate. The media prefers to report only stories of battered women but just as many men are brutalized by women. Men are ashamed to report an attack by a crazed woman. If they do they are called a wimp. Psychological abuse by a loved one is seldom spoken about but it can also be very painful. There are couples that torture each other with words. They are not considered violent actions, but they can be very damaging to a persons self esteem and personal life. There are countless negative factors that can end a relationship. It is a miracle that any relationships last more than a few months.

Women have wisely become cautious about entering a serious relationship. They have a lot to lose if things go wrong. A woman can lose her reputation if a guy she just met likes to tell stories about their date. Some women would rather be alone then take a chance on a love affair that rarely ever lasts. Men by nature don’t need a serious relationship. Many men are looking for an ego booster thrown in with some good sex. Having as many sexual affairs as possible is their goal.They need little else. But women are basically different they want something more than a few quickies. They are looking for a long lasting relationship. But men seldom want a serious relationship. Guys will promise a woman anything to get what they want. A poor or homely man will easily grant a woman her wishes and enter a serious relationship with her if she will accept him. The dating game has proven to be frustrating to every one except the rich guy that gets exactly what he wants and as often as he wishes.

Many women that have been disappointed by guys have discovered that the sex toy has replaced the sexual need for men. They no longer need a man to please them sexually. But they do need a man for another important reason and that is a financial one. Even if a woman has a good job, a guy with a better one will add to her lifestyle. That is the reason most women won’t quit the dating game. There is always hope of meeting a guy that will buy her expensive gifts or take her on a trip to Europe. Some young and good looking women are successful but the rest fail after years of hunting for that special guy.

The dating game and marriages will continue as long as a man needs sex and an ego booster. And women will always hunt men for an extra buck. That is the nature of the game. The only sure way to beat that game is not to get involved in it, for most that seem impossible to do. But if you do get involved and it doesn’t work out, you can always scream: “You Can Kiss My Backside Goodbye”.
melviiin1@verizon.net

Retired and single recluse.