Get Out Of That Sexual Rut

Once a new couple settles in to a comfortable, monogamous relationship, it is very common for their sex lives to become as routine as the rest of their lives. Each partner quickly figures out where to touch, how hard, and how fast in order to please his or her lover, and passion can be lost as each person begins following a predictable pattern to please the other. Certain positions are used out of habit, just as certain locations are -- and while the sex is still satisfying, it loses the butterflies and excitement that existed at the start of the relationship.

Do you find yourself headed down this monotonous road with your long-time lover? Are you already there, going through the motions and waiting for things to heat up again? Instead, allow me to include sex toys into your lives and make things new again!

The bed may be big, and soft, and the default place where you end up doing the deed before drifting off to sleep. However, unless you live in a one room shoebox with no indoor plumbing, there are many many other great places to get it. Doesn't everyone love to steam up the shower with a hot, wet lover? That's the best place to throw in something new, like a waterproof vibrator or a vibrating sponge. Don't forget the erotic bath salts or glow in the dark bubble bath. Or, go all out and buy the couple's fun bath pail. Who says bath toys are for kids?!

Better yet, present your partner with a romantic meal for two on the kitchen table. Don a sexy set of edible undies or some flavored whip-cream topping on your most delectable parts, and satisfy all your sexual cravings. If you're feeling particularly domestic, you can even fix up an array of adult-themed goodies for a post-sex feast.

Just think of all the spaces in your home that are dying to be part of your love life. The big comfy couch, the carpet in front of the fireplace, the wall in the hallway. Go all out and expand your horizons beyond the house as well -- your car, a secluded spot on the beach, a quaint motel. Get out of that stale, tired bedroom and just do it!