Oral Sex- still a Taboo for Some Couples

Oral sex is a popular sexual behavior which is tightly related to most of our sexual fantasies. Nowadays this intimate act is generously practiced by numerous lovers during their kinky foreplay and sex sessions. Nevertheless, for some couples oral pleasure still remains to be a taboo. Let's figure out which are those reasons why certain lovers avoid oral pleasure and shy away from even suggesting this kind of sex.
The most common fear that numerous sex partners encounter when it comes to oral sex is their intimidation of being rejected.

Some consider kissing and teasing one's genitals an unsavory, unpleasant process. They disgust this act of giving and receiving pleasure orally and are reluctant to try it. Women are often driven by the conviction that their lips and clitoris are too big, hairy or wrinkled. Men don't rush into letting their sex partners perform a blow job on them because of their conviction that their penis is not sufficiently big, straight or erect. In addition, partners may consider that their genitals taste and smell disgustingly. Under these circumstances they become vulnerable and are not willing to give or receive any oral caress. They'd better resort to masturbators like blowjob imitators, realistic vaginas, inflatable sex dolls, veined dildos, masturbation sleeves or other adult sex toys which serve as partner's genitals.
But, like it or not, the fact is that many of these shy persons are unconsciously eager to implement this game as part of their kinky intercourse. Many would truly enjoy to offer or receive a skillful oral sex.

So, what makes oral sex so tantalizing?

Oral sex is a form of pleasure that settles a closer liaison between partners. And once one has been decided to perform a delicious oral sex on his/her partner that means he/she is confided in her/him. Such an intimate contact relies on confidence, acceptance and trust. Oral sex seems to be the ultimate expression of acceptance. So, once lovers have been made up their minds to oral sex, cheers! Their relationship becomes stronger and more enjoyable.

Prepare yourself for an amazing oral encounter!

If you are willing to add 'oral bliss' to your sexual life, talk about it with your beloved partner! Share your mutual concerns and ideas, desires and wishes. Thus you overcome and avoid misunderstandings related to your sexual life.
Perhaps she will be more relaxed if she would hear courageous words and affectionate sentences like 'I love your body', 'Your genitals look so appealing!', 'I like to kiss and admire them', 'My tongue is eager to spend more time between your luscious lips' etc.

Once you've been decided to perform/receive a fellatio/cunnilingus, make sure your genitals are clean! However, you should remember that the natural smell and taste of one's penis or vagina may be the primal source of pleasure for you and your lover. So, you'd better reject using deodorants or sprays because they may destroy the natural 'formula' of your body. In addition, they may cause irritation and intimate discomfort.

Embarrassing partners may try the 69th or 68th right after bath or shower when they feel clean, fresh and more comfortable. Moreover, in case lovers are embarrassed with the way they look they may resort to a dimming atmosphere with lighting candles, for example.

Before enjoying such an oral fiesta, make sure you trust your giver/receiver. First-timers and unknown sex partners are recommended to use condoms or dental dams which lines the mouth for extra safety and prevention of different STDs.

Oral delight- a pleasure that needs no illustration!

Oral canoodling implies one's playful tongue, mouth, a combination of softness and flexibility everybody should experience. The giver can kiss, delicately bite, lick, suck or nibble. Certain lovers go gaga over tender motions and delicate movements. Others, inversely, enjoy firmer and bolder movements. It's up to you to decide what you like and don't. Just let this intimate act interfere into your sexual life, banish boredom and embarrassment! Start a new stage - one that will reinvigorate your sessions and intimate feelings in no time!

Xenia Blanchett, a sexologist, author, relationship educator, advice columnist and psychologist.
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