Who else wants to improve their love and relationship using 3 proven tips for success?

You may have heard already that when somebody is on their death bed, just about to leave their loved ones behind, the last thing they would say is that they wish they had spent more time at the office!

Why then, do people neglect those closest to them? Is it perhaps too easy to treat those closest to us with distain, when really, they most likely deserve to be treated with the utmost respect and love. People often treat strangers better than those they love and relationship harmony seems to elude them as a result. Then they wonder why!

What do you think would happen if you bought a beautiful flowering plant and then left it in a dark corner of a room and neglected it?

Your life love and relationship with your intimate partner is no different to this poor plant in many respects and is probably the most important relationship you will ever have, apart from if you have children too. Even then, children will one day leave the nest and start their own life and you are left with this person, whom perhaps you do not really know as well as you once thought.

It is never too late to start building bridges in any relationship. The love that brought you together initially can be revitalized and strengthened by making some simple day to day changes in the way you relate. In fact, you will be amazed at how much difference it will make just by applying these small strategies.

For example, the next time you are with somebody you care about and they want to share something with you on an emotional level, try the following.

1. Make sure you give them your full, undivided attention. If you are working or being distracted doing something else, stop what you are doing, turn to face them, make eye contact and be fully available for them. Imagine what that does for somebody's self esteem.

2. Listen to understand. This may be the first time you have done this. Do not try to fix anything, just listen and try to feel what they are feeling. Most people when they are talking about their feelings do not want you to think up a solution. They just want you to listen to them and understand how it feels, then they feel supported and often this is enough.

Men, in particular, do not understand that this is what their wife wants from them. Instead they get angry because their wife will not listen to them, trying to offer a solution! Then they wonder what women talk about between themselves?

Instead of that solution, next time, just say something supportive like "that must have been difficult for you" or "I know how you must have felt".

Just this one change can make heartfelt, magical changes in the way you will be able to relate to each other.

3. You know when you first meet somebody; you are on your best behavior? You are charming and polite and respectful? Imagine that your partner has a sign around their neck which says "Please Make Me Feel Special". Everybody has this need whether they are conscious of it or not.

The next time you speak to your partner, treat them with the same charming, respectful courtesy you would offer a stranger. Your relationship will grow the same way as if you had applied fertilizer and water to your old tired plant in the corner!

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