Why do women prefer men much older than them?

Nowadays it's very common to see the couple with the age difference about 20 years between the spouses. Today you can see 18-20 year old girls dating with men who are 30-45. At first sight it may seem strange and awkward, but everything happens for a reason.

Everyone knows that the girls usually mature faster than the boys. In the former USSR countries this process is even more accelerated. Many children have seen all that corruption and unfair proceedings of the country, challenges of life, some of them even had to fight for their lifes and the lifes of their close people in the early childhood. Girls, in particular, often face behavior that in some other countries could be considered harassment: many women can find a job and earn money only if they win favor of their male bosses; often women in Russia are perceived as merely dolls without brains. Basic instinct of self-preservation and aiming for improvement make Russian brides search for better alternatives.

During the last years there was a tendency among Ukrainian and Russian brides to marry men close to their age who were their high school or college and university friends. Statistics show that about 50-60 percents of such marriages break within first three years of the union. Many women end up leaving the relationship with children, as well as disappointment in men of their age from their motherland. As a result, they turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous, wise and caring.

Also there is a psychological point. As long as many girls grow up in "incomplete" families and are often abandoned by their fathers, when they search for a relationship, on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other words, they are looking for a "father figure". They sometimes don’t even realize it, but when they turn to older men, they are looking for someone to be their protector, someone who'd take care of them and give them security.

Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, until recently a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure and begin getting serious about starting a family only close to their 30s. That automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the partners. Add to it the time that men spent with the "wrong" partner in a previous marriage or relationship, and that puts available male candidates right at their late 30s – early 40s, which creates such a huge age difference between the ladies and guys.

But these were only statistics facts, and you should remember: true love has no boundaries. If you find someone attracts and interests you - take a chance of finding your Russian bride despite the age and distance.

Oksana Boichenko

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The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half – just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.