The Myths About Approaching Women- Uncovering How To Approach Women – PART 2

As I discussed in the previous article on how to approach women, the moment you approach a random girl you are by default in a position of weakness. Something you have to put in your head is pretty much no matter what you do (indirect opener, asking her for an opinion) will come across that you are hitting on her. She will figure it out thanks to the thousands of guinea pigs the "pick up" industry has created and the enormous media coverage it receives.

Secondly, a good looking girl (this is especially relevant to beautiful women) is used to being approached by men and hit on. In fact, numerous studies have shown by the time a beautiful woman reaches the age of 25 she will have been approached by 1,000 men.  In other words, she is expecting men to hit on her. No matter what you say or do, the mere fact that you are trying to get her attention will put in her head that you are hitting on her.

It is a natural reaction she has wired in her brain as a result of the way she has been admired by men for years. So don't think that your female opener or asking for directions will make it any less obvious that you are hitting on her. She will know. She will also be thinking, why did you ask this particular good looking girl for the time or an opinion? Why didn't you ask the average looking girl to her right? In a nutshell, the combination of the constant bombardment of "pick up" materials and the mere fact she is beautiful puts you in a position of weakness.

Contrary to what some might have you believe, the good looking girl does in fact have the power at that point, not you. From the moment you approached her she is the one that calls the shots, not you. She will decide if she wants to continue with you or reject your advance. What this means to you is that if she is already attracted to you (such as finding you good looking) then she will want to continue with you. But be under no false illusion because it is as a result of something you "said" or something you are "wearing". Nope, these days random girls (especially good looking ones) will only go for the guys they want to go for based on their criteria. They can afford to be picky, they know they can get any guy they want. They get tons of offers all the time. That is just how the world is.

So when gurus or posers tell you looks don't matter, they are WRONG. Looks do matter big time. You will notice a good looking guy will be very successful approaching women, without having to work much for it. In addition to that, women will approach him. Women will in fact chase him. So please don't buy in to that. That is just some guru or poser trying to get you to buy their product or service so they can "teach" you how to transform your personality (by loading you with an arsenal of routines and wearing ridiculous outfits) so beautiful girls will fall for you.

I am afraid to say these days are over.

Now if you actually want a real shot at getting this right and want to know how to successfully approach women then listen up.

As we established when you approach a random girl because of today's new environment, no matter what you do, she will assume you are hitting on her. As a result she will reject you if she is not already attracted to you, because her shield has gone up ten-fold the moment she realises you are hitting on her. The only way to get through at that point is if she is already into you. This is most likely going to be because she finds you attractive. That is the most common reason. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

So what works then? How do you approach women and succeed?

That is to be discussed in the next  article.